Some men like it hot…but all like it wet. The MOST important foundation to a successful BJ is to get his penis as wet as you possibly can and keep it that way for the duration of the exercise. You can do this with your mouth or use lube if you prefer. If you chose to forgo the lube, you don’t want to directly spit on it, but when you first insert the penis into your mouth try to gather a lot of saliva, this should be your main goal—think slip and slide. At this preliminary stage do not worry about your where your hands are, how you look , or if he likes it…the answer is yes to all!

Once you have the penis well lubricated, you should move on to what I like to call the “V spot” - the indentations on either side of the package. It is best to start from bottom to top and lick from the top (side almost) of the ball sack up to the hip bone. Repeat on other side. Trace the lines you made with your tongue with your thumb and index finger. It is fine to concentrate on one side at a time naturally, but the idea is to be able to give a lubricated massage around the package.

So you should be able to have a pretty good introductory rhythm: hands on either side of the package, entire penis in your mouth from bottom to top, then tongue only from bottom to top.

By now, your man should be relaxed and thoroughly enjoying the situation and the penis should be well lubricated and easy to work with. This is the perfect time to bring your hand into play. Now don’t worry if you don’t think you are good at hand jobs and you had an embarrassing experience in your adolescent past, this isn’t the same as a 2nd base hand job. Grab the penis with your whole hand and start to move it up and down nice and slow. The key to good hand motion during a BJ is to keep your hand flexible, and variety. I like to start at the base of the shaft with my pinkie and then one by one fan each finger around the penis until it is enclosed in my loose fist. As you fan your fingers and close your hand tighter move up the shaft and then come back down with the closed fist. It is important to keep your hand loose and in constant motion coming on and off the penis at different levels.

It is very important not to forget about his balls – and you have a few options. If you want to go ahead and put them in your mouth, go for it….just be careful. It can be like two dogs in a bathtub, as soon as you get one in, the other will normally jump out. Don’t sweat it, this isn’t a key element. As long as you get both balls involved at some point, you should be okay (when you are playing with balls, it is ideal to keep the hand motion on his penis as to create a “full package experience”). Scared to put them in your mouth? Totally understandable. By now the entire area should be pretty wet, so you should be able to cup his balls and gently play with them as you continue with your up and down motion with your hand and mouth.

If possible integrate all of the actions mentioned above during the entire blow job. You should have a good balance of a “v spot” massage, licking the length, totally in your mouth, hand motion and balls. I like to think of it as choreography, you have the steps down, now you just have to create a routine. Good luck and enjoy!!!

And check out these videos for more help: Fellatio Hand Tips, Tending To His Testices

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