Sure, it may be the most popular number in Junior High bathroom stalls… But, for many, ‘69’ is a timeless favorite between the sheets. Named after the way in which the numbers 6 and 9 fit perfectly together, this position has many variations, which allow for partners to both give and receive oral sex simultaneously. There’s partner (a) on top, partner (b) on top, side-to-side/head-to-toe, standing, and so on and so forth. Many appreciate ‘69’ for the [literal] in-your-face intimacy it requires. Yet, for others, that vulnerability is precisely what makes it an unappealing position. If you’re keen on the idea (but are still feeling a little uneasy), here’s a few tips for mathematical bliss.

Tips for the ‘69’ Position:

(1) Shower first. In ’69,’ you might as well forget the concept of personal space. Your genitals will, in fact, be up close and personal. If you don’t feel clean, this position can be extremely unnerving. So, do whatever preparations are necessary for you to personally feel attractive in the ‘69’ position. [On a similar note, you’ll likely want your partner to do the same. If you find it awkward to bring up, suggest showering together beforehand. Not only can it make ‘69’ more pleasurable, but it can also act as foreplay.]

(2) Experiment with weight/pressure. Depending on the variation of ’69,’ you might be dealing with the body weight of your partner on top of you (or vice-versa). To some (including Alex on this episode), this is a very positive experience. Others find it uncomfortable or distracting. Experiment with different variations in order to find an arrangement that’s comfortable for both you and your partner.

(3) Use delayed starts. In most relationships, both partners do not tend to orgasm at exactly the same moment. Therefore, it might be useful for one person to start performing oral sex before the other begins. (Be forewarned that the visual aspect of ‘69’ has been known to send many off the deep end much more quickly than in other positions. Timing will be something to work on.)

(4) Give your partner a hand. As a person approaches orgasm in ’69,’ it’s often difficult to continue focusing on the giving aspect of oral sex. At this point, it may be useful to incorporate the hands instead. (And for those who clench their jaws together during orgasm, please take this as a friendly yet firm suggestion from me to you!)

Certainly, this position can prove to be a challenge.  Yet, for many, ‘69′ is no longer an odd number.  Tips on oral sex may also help to improve your experience…

For some general tips on oral sex, check out these past postings on our blog: Oral Sex Topics

Also, find out more tips on our episode “Oral Sex Tricks”

The deep throat is not necessary for all BJs, although it is important to keep in your bag of tricks. It is like having a really bold lip gloss color…you aren’t going to wear it everyday, but you should be prepared if a special occasion or whim arises…

A lot of women say, “Oh no, I choke and gag…I can’t do it.” Well, that may be because they aren’t doing it the right way. Some women will try to shove the penis down the back of their throat…that is why they gag. Now for those of us that may be blessed enough to be born sans gag reflex, this is fine. For the rest of us, the trick is back and up. There is a space between the top of your pallet and where the roof of your mouth meets the uvula. It’s soft and feels a little spongy, test it with your finger first to make sure you know the spot. That is the target for the tip of the penis. When the penis goes into the back of your mouth, guide it up in that spot and you can even apply some pressure to it by pushing down on the head a little. This pressure will usually feel like you are swallowing it whole, which is generally most desirable for your partner.

It is very challenging to give a deep throat only blow job….nearly impossible I think. You need to throw some other things into the mix like hand motions, ball-cupping and tongue massaging to switch it up!

We know it isn’t easy, but that’s why it’s called a job…

Check out our videos on this topic: Deep Throat Techniques,  Help With Deep Throat, How To Give Great Deep Throat

The women talk about balls as being sensitive in this video, but from what I understand, they are a little hardier than we think.  That’s not to say some guys won’t flinch if you suddenly grab one, but they can be played with a little more force than we may be used to.  But still … watch those nails!!

Ball play doesn’t only have to occur during blowjobs.  Some guys dig it whenever! A tip I learned from “A Guide to Getting It On” is to have your man lie face down on the bed and lightly massage the back part of his scrotum with your fingertips.  At times, even venture towards his perineum (aka Taint – the area between the balls and anus).  It’s quite a turn on when combined with the sensation of your breasts rubbing his side and back, and your legs and vulva straddling different areas of his lower body.  Hot, huh?!?

Another ball play “how to” is to fondle them during sex.  There are a number of positions during intercourse where his balls can be reached and played with including doggie style (from between your legs), on top (reach behind) or reverse on top (hello balls!).  But if playing with his balls becomes too distracting, stop.  Orgasm isn’t easy, and sometimes it takes all our attention to get there.  As I am sure he would agree, no need to waste that energy on his balls!

Today’s episode is basically about giving cunnilingus (I wish we had a better name for this other than “eating out!”) – and whether the Cherry TV women like their partner to tell them what’s working and what’s not. Never having given cunnilingus (nor having received from a woman), I can only talk about my experience on the receiving end of a guy. And honestly, I find it very difficult to provide adequate verbal instruction.

I don’t climax easily (or quickly!!) from oral regardless, and I’ve found the boys/men I’ve been with are either already good at it, or not. But I am not able to instruct a guy into doing it the way I like. Granted, that’s on me — and maybe if I had a little more confidence I would be able to.

But then I have to decide if it’s worth it. Some men seem to learn quite quickly, others, though they are present and eager to please, still seem to forget what it is I like over past lovers. And, in those cases, when it comes to oral sex, I would rather just give them the tap and get back to fucking, smooching, and all that other fun stuff!

This episode was a lot of fun to shoot. The women chosen to sit on the panel were all experienced in giving and receiving cunnilingus – and all had definite views on the topic.

Watching these clips I’m reminded of how sexual responses and preferences are so subjective. While there are certain things that are universally enjoyed (for the most part) – there’s a lot that’s not. What feels good to one person doesn’t to another … and we’re talking physically here. The emotional/physiological aspects of sexual enjoyment are a whole other story – but in terms of basic sensation, we’re all different … and we change over time. Isn’t it awesome!?!?! I think it makes sex that much more exciting. There are continuously new things to try …. new techniques to master …. new activities to experiment with. Like the dual penetration discussed on this episode. I personally haven’t been there – but after hearing the women discuss it, I’m raring to go!

On the first part of today’s episode the women, specifically Katelyn, discusses the length of time they’ll continue going down on a man before they give up. Blow jobs are hard work!! And while we discuss ways to go about it in other episodes that aren’t as taxing — Blow Job Techniques & Oral Techniques for example — if the purpose of the blow job is to reach climax, most women, at least the Cherry women, prefer sooner rather than later.

However, fellatio is often performed as foreplay — just to get him revved up for additional fun. In those cases, too soon may be … too soon!

The women also offer up additional blow job techniques on this episode. In all honesty, the timing conversation was quite short – so we edited on more content to bolster it up!

Enjoy!

Ah yes, it’s pretty much agreed upon that teeth are not welcome during any kind of oral sex.  What’s interesting though, in another panel, one of the women talks about a guy she was with who liked very light teeth use at times during fellatio.  Some men may enjoy it.  I wonder if they tend to lean more towards kink and s & m??

However, for most men, it should be avoided.  The problem is that our mouths are full of teeth!  And I’m sure during our early blow jobs, or while intoxicated, we’ve all had instances of inadvertent teeth use.  Not fun, but typical.

That said, if you find it happens more than occasionally, try changing position.  You can also practice keeping you lips tucked over your teeth.  According to http://www.icame.com

“Try placing your lips together with your teeth apart. Then open your lips slowly and keep your teeth apart and that should work perfectly.”

Hmm, sounds like a good technique.

During taping, the conversation on hand use during blow jobs went on for quite a while.  The women had a lot to say about it so I split it up into three different clips (see prior entry).  During the discussion rarely did a panelist talk about not using her hands on his shaft (though Celeste mentioned she rarely does).  But check out one of the comments we received about the topic:

“I felt I have to warn: Some guys (like me) don’t actually like a hand on the shaft during a blowjob. At least I’ve never had a blowjob that actually felt -good- with a hand involved. It’s possible that with practice or time some woman somewhere would finally learn the right pressure/motion for a hand (I also generally don’t like handjobs by women), but so far I seem to much rather -just- involve the mouth for the shaft of my penis.

A hand on the balls (or behind them) on the other hand is very great. I liked the mention of hips/thighs too.”

Interesting, huh?  Personally, I prefer not to worry too much about using my hand on his shaft.  Maybe I’m just a spazz, but there’s so much to concentrate on during bjs – consistent sucking, optimum tongue use, eye contact, fondling his balls, covering my teeth, deep-throating when able, propping myself up –  that when you add coordinated hand/mouth action on his shaft too, whoa, that’s a whole new level of concentration! But many men and women love it.  And if you both are down with it – enjoy!

Watch it here: http://www.cherrytv.com/video/bj-hand-use-part-3