In this video Claire Cavanah from Babeland instructs us on how to attain a G-spot orgasm (referred by Claire as “G-spotting”). The information is extremely helpful and it’s peppered with commentary on the ease and comfort we can experience in the bedroom when we simply let go and accept ourselves, as we are, sexually.

However, before we can have a G-spot orgasm, we need to identify our G-spot. Our video on finding and stimulating the G-spot can be found here.

G-spotting is intense. It’s another extremely pleasurable practice that can be integrated into our sex lives. But if you are unable to experience it, despite Claire’s guidance, do not despair. Like all orgasms, our brain plays a major role in the process and if we’re not able to relax mentally, we most likely won’t be able to relax fully physically.

But hey, there’s always next time!! And armed with techniques and understanding we’re that much closer to achieving and providing full G-spot pleasure.

In today’s video the women talk about missionary position. They all enjoy it, and three out of the five women on this panel can climax in missionary without any manual stimulation.

I continue to find it so interesting how different everyone is!! On another panel we did (Orgasm Go To Positions) none of the women could climax in missionary without masturbating. Fascinating, huh?? I believe there are a few things at work here.

The first is simply anatomy. We are all different sizes and none of our pelvises are exactly the same shape. Also, our lovers are different sizes so while we may be able to come via missionary without self-stimulation with one partner, we may not be able to with another based upon the way his penis and/or pelvis hits our clitoris.

There’s also experience. Some women know the exact position they need to be in, regardless of and/or based upon the size of their partner, for the friction to be precise in order to come via missionary. Lucky ladies!!

In addition, I also think it depends upon the type of orgasm or feeling one is looking for while on the bottom. Some women it seems don’t expect to have a clitoral orgasm while in missionary, just a vaginal orgasm. However, some experts say there isn’t really any such thing as a vaginal orgasm, that it’s actually a “blended” orgasm that includes the clitoris and vagina — otherwise there is no release.

That said, during our discussions this last year, many women think of the feeling of intense contractions within her vagina during sex as a vaginal orgasm regardless of no clitoral–like release. (Orgasm Sensations) And while the terminology may need to be perfected, I believe the more orgasms we are able to have — the better!

So anatomy, experience and perception, just a few reasons I believe many women can’t come in missionary without helping herself along, while others can. Now let’s go practice!

Watch Video: Orgasm and Missionary

I love the concept of “go to” orgasm positions – I unfortunately, do not have one. However as the women were discussing in the video, their “go tos” tend to be with a particular partner. But some women have “go tos” they can bust out with any partner. Lucky ladies!

Personally, a number of factors need to be in place to climax during a specific sex session. It can be any combination of the following …. mentally present (me and him), sufficient warm up time, feeling emotionally close with my partner, his level of arousal/sense of desire for me, the physicality of our bodies, and my ability to self-stimulate … to name a few (heh). Sometimes they all need to be present — sometimes I can get off without any being present except my ability to masturbate

Do you have a go to? What factors need to be present for you in order to orgasm? We would love to know. There’s a ton of us out here that need help and the more information we have the better…

Watch Video: Orgasm “Go To” Positionss

The women talk about balls as being sensitive in this video, but from what I understand, they are a little hardier than we think.  That’s not to say some guys won’t flinch if you suddenly grab one, but they can be played with a little more force than we may be used to.  But still … watch those nails!!

Ball play doesn’t only have to occur during blowjobs.  Some guys dig it whenever! A tip I learned from “A Guide to Getting It On” is to have your man lie face down on the bed and lightly massage the back part of his scrotum with your fingertips.  At times, even venture towards his perineum (aka Taint – the area between the balls and anus).  It’s quite a turn on when combined with the sensation of your breasts rubbing his side and back, and your legs and vulva straddling different areas of his lower body.  Hot, huh?!?

Another ball play “how to” is to fondle them during sex.  There are a number of positions during intercourse where his balls can be reached and played with including doggie style (from between your legs), on top (reach behind) or reverse on top (hello balls!).  But if playing with his balls becomes too distracting, stop.  Orgasm isn’t easy, and sometimes it takes all our attention to get there.  As I am sure he would agree, no need to waste that energy on his balls!

This episode was a lot of fun to shoot. The women chosen to sit on the panel were all experienced in giving and receiving cunnilingus – and all had definite views on the topic.

Watching these clips I’m reminded of how sexual responses and preferences are so subjective. While there are certain things that are universally enjoyed (for the most part) – there’s a lot that’s not. What feels good to one person doesn’t to another … and we’re talking physically here. The emotional/physiological aspects of sexual enjoyment are a whole other story – but in terms of basic sensation, we’re all different … and we change over time. Isn’t it awesome!?!?! I think it makes sex that much more exciting. There are continuously new things to try …. new techniques to master …. new activities to experiment with. Like the dual penetration discussed on this episode. I personally haven’t been there – but after hearing the women discuss it, I’m raring to go!

On the first part of today’s episode the women, specifically Katelyn, discusses the length of time they’ll continue going down on a man before they give up. Blow jobs are hard work!! And while we discuss ways to go about it in other episodes that aren’t as taxing — Blow Job Techniques & Oral Techniques for example — if the purpose of the blow job is to reach climax, most women, at least the Cherry women, prefer sooner rather than later.

However, fellatio is often performed as foreplay — just to get him revved up for additional fun. In those cases, too soon may be … too soon!

The women also offer up additional blow job techniques on this episode. In all honesty, the timing conversation was quite short – so we edited on more content to bolster it up!

Enjoy!

By now perhaps you have seen my new episode of Fresh Advice? The one where I tell you my secrets of how I became something of a Sexual Super Heroine? Well, it’s all true! And you can be one too! If you missed it, it’s a funny story and you can watch it now by clicking here. Bigger Better Orgasms

To recap, here are the simple steps to build strong pelvic (Kegal) muscles:

1. Go to the bathroom and let all of the pee out of your body.

2. Squeeze your pelvic muscles 10 times. (The same muscles you would use to stop the flow of pee. Try to isolate just that muscle.)

3. Do three sets of 10 flexes. For a total of 30 flexes.

4. Be sure to breath deeply. (Just like you would when lifting weights or doing yoga.)

5. Do this three times a day or every time you go pee.

And please, if you have questions, a personal story, or comments to add – leave your comments here. I love to hear what you have to say! xo - Ducky