As we know, sex is an awesome, yet sometimes overwhelming topic.  On Cherry TV, we try to address as many female-oriented intimacy issues as possible – but unfortunately we’ll never be able to provide answers and insight into everything.  However, if you have a specific question you are curious about, let us know!  We’ll attempt to address it here on the blog and possibly even cover it on a show.
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With that said, let’s go to our first question….

Little Cherry,

My boyfriend and I have recently been experimenting with having sex in public. This can range anywhere from being in the back of my car to being on a park bench. Not only do we like the fresh air, but we also get really aroused from the prospect of being caught. However, we don’t actually want to be discovered by the police, of course! I try to always wear big billowy skirts and keep a look-out, but lately I’ve been feeling extremely nervous. I was wondering if you could tell me what kind of legal risks are involved when we’re doing it outside. Thanks.

-Show and Don’t Tell

Dear Show and Don’t Tell,

Generally speaking, indecent exposure means showing your genitals (and/or “private parts,” which may include breasts and butt) in a place where viewers are expected. Indecent exposure is usually charged as a misdemeanor offense. However, under certain circumstances, such as being in the presence of a minor, the charge can certainly be aggravated. (This might even mean having to register as a sex offender, which can affect your ability to enter into employment or higher education.) The laws vary by state, so without knowing your location, I could only recommend to do some of your own research on the legal repercussions in your particular area. You should also keep in mind that public sex can be considered as disturbing the peace, which can bring about additional consequences.

An online survey in 2006 showed that about 22% of men and women have had sex in some sort of public venue. As you’ve described, the ‘thrill factor’ does seem to play a strong role in many people’s motivation. However, if you and your boyfriend can only become aroused in the presence of others, your behavior might be leaning towards paraphilia. In other words, you repeatedly become intensely aroused from something deemed socially unconventional or deviant. If this is the case, you should consider speaking with a trained professional, such as a therapist or counselor, for some psychological and emotional guidance.

With all this being said, you may still decide it’s worth it. (Many people do!) I would recommend sharing this information with your boyfriend, as well. That way, the two of you can hopefully decide upon something that makes you both feel comfortable.

Take care,
Little Cherry

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