Bad Sex – whoa, have I had my share of bad sex! My first two years of college was just one big bout of bad sex. They were bad …. I was bad … the whole thing was just fumbling and awkward. There are a ton of guys out there who would think I am the last person who should be involved in a sex site.

First, my ineptitude. Often alcohol was involved — I was scared of sex and needed to be drunk in order to feel relaxed to even contemplate having intercourse. I was also incredibly self-conscious about my body. I was barely comfortable being naked by myself, not to mention with another person. And to top it all off, I didn’t masturbate at the time so I was not familiar with my sexual responses or what felt good to me.

When I did have sex, I concentrated on him – making sure he seemed to have a good time. But I wasn’t present so even though I was focused on him, I wasn’t able to sense what he needed or wanted from me. I had problems getting into the rhythm, would switch positions are weird times, and didn’t know what to do with my legs. Eek. I’m getting embarrassed just thinking about it.

Now, his ineptitude – it’s pretty basic … the jackhammer. The jackhammer that goes on, and on and on, our vagina’s get numb. I, like many women, thought, “is this what sex is about?” if so, I don’t need it.

Luckily things changed. I found my clitoris, started masturbating, and was with a few guys who were interested in my needs.

I’m older now and still encounter bad sex. Like the women in the video, if I’m in a position that doesn’t feel good, I will certainly try to maneuver out of it. Or, if something is being done to be that I don’t like, I will just start doing something to him so he stops. But unlike Katie in the video, who will direct them during the session, I will just say things like “Ouch” or “Slower” or even “You can come at any time” (heh).

It’s interesting, those first few times you’re with someone, because it is a window into how sexually compatible you are. Hopefully it’s amazing and hot right away!! But if not, through communication and honesty – if they’re worth the time – a level of sexual fulfillment can certainly be attained.