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Veronica, 07/02/09

Relationship vs. Casual Sex

As the girls discuss in this episode, you can have both casual and relationship sex with the same person or different partners. It is really all about different flavors, moods, and the person you are sleeping with. Keep in mind though if you are participating in casual sex you must be in a place mentally where you can handle it. If you really desire sex with emotion, you probably want to steer clear!

As for the physical aspects of sex, think of it like going out to eat. There are a plethora of different restaurants, cuisines, and scenarios that you can choose …

Sometimes, you are just in the mood for something casual, like a burger or pizza. It can start to get late, and you’re hungry, but you don’t necessarily want to put all the effort into get dolled up and make a production out of it. There are times when there is nothing better than just throwing your hair on top of your head in a ponytail and going to grab a quick bite. Afterwards, you feel satisfied, happy, and relaxed.

Then of course there are times when you want something a little more special. You want to take the time to look your best and wear something sexy. You look forward to a night of being served some of the best cuisine that the area has to offer. At times, there is nothing better than a long, 3 course meal, including the perfect wine and ending with dessert. Depending on your relationship with your partner, this may happen only on special occasions, randomly just to switch up your routine, or on a more consistent basis if your relationship is new.

Of course there are variations to everything. Maybe you want want something casual, but spicy and different. Sometimes, you are in the mood for something raw and no fuss. Sometimes you don’t even need a full meal and just a snack can work to hold you over.

It is also important to try new things, because if you don’t try, whose to say that you won’t like it? It just may end up being your favorite. We can all crave something we don’t have on a regular basis, and sometimes it’s okay to give in and satisfy your craving. Even when you’re on a diet, you need to treat yourself sometimes. It is also important to remember, that as much as women like being served, men appreciate it when they can just relax and you cater to them…and vice versa of course.

So when it comes to sex and eating, whether it is casual or a little more special, it is important to relax and savor the moment!

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Veronica, 06/19/09

Hooking Up…Can it Last?

I think that Samantha from SATC said it best in her conversation with Charlotte when she preached, “Honey, you have to test drive the car before you buy it.” This relates to dating, sex and relationships on so many different levels:

Sometimes, a car catches your eye. It may be for just a split second and then you see it up close and you say to yourself, “what was I thinking?!” Other times, you may have some interest and then you read consumer reports, find out what people have to say, or ask your friends opinions before you make the decision whether it’s even worth to take the time to test drive.

Sometimes when you think that the car may be a good fit, you just have to get in the seat, rev it up and enjoy the ride. Hopefully it’s a good ride, and you aren’t disappointed. Sometimes that’s all you need to get it out of your system, or sometimes you go back for more with a higher level of interest. Regardless of whether you want to invest or not, you can hope that you enjoy yourself during the time you are engaged with the vehicle. Usually, you’ll need to test drive on multiple occasions, during different kinds of settings, scenarios and terrain, just to see how the car handles. The before making any serious moves you need to ask yourself questions…

- Do I feel safe?

- Can I trust this car?

- Does this car look good? Is it in good shape?

- Do I look good in this car?

- How is this car going to affect my life/lifestyle?

- Am I going to have a good time and enjoy myself in this car?

- Does it have a lot of miles?

- Will it need a lot of work?

- I wonder what the previous owner was like and how they treated it (if applicable)

Sometimes you won’t know the answers to these questions until you have the opportunity to test drive other cars to see what’s out there. You may realize there is a much better fit for you, or that your first choice was right from the start. Whatever the case may be, there is a lot of trial, experimenting, and thought that goes into buying a car. Hopefully it is an enjoyable experience trying to find that right one…whether it is just a lease or you end up buying.

A lot of people plan to just lease a car because they think that it’s the most comfortable option for them in their current lifestyles. Perhaps that’s true. Or sometimes, they will lease in the beginning and when that period ends, they will take the plunge and buy it right off the lease if they still enjoy it and everything seems to be going well.

Some other people prefer to explore all options and then make an educated decision to commit and buy. While others (who I find to be in the small minority) can just buy it right off the lot without even a test drive! To each their own.

Anyway you look at it, I think that relationships are like car loans, after 5 years you should either own it or trade it in for a new one. Personally, I’ve been leasing a great model with a strong intent to buy…