My partner looks very young for his age by no fault of his own. He has a clean-shaven baby’s face and it doesn’t help that he’s short. He always gets carded when we go out, he has been mistaken for a peer at a ten year-olds birthday party and in the funniest of stories, upon jumping into  the back of a taxi late one night, a concerned cab driver asked him “Where is your mommy?” I love my partner’s physically characteristics: his jet-black hair against his alabaster skin, his muscular legs and of course his motley colored eyes; just not his childlike appearance.

Once in an attempt to mix things up, he shaved off all is pubic hair. When asked what I thought, I replied that I felt like a cradle robber. His response was an infant like “Goo!”

It did make sex different; there was less hair to get in the way during fellatio and my partner and I engaged in role playing scenarios that involved me being with a stranger.

Sex can be messy and awkward – and one of the activities that can cause one or both parties to be uncomfortable is fellatio. Here we gathered some issues that can arise while going down on a guy. And if you thought they only happened to you – think again…

Issue 1: We’ve Got Dry mouth.
We’ve always heard “the wetter the better,” yet we just can’t seem to get the saliva flowing. We try spitting, either directly on his penis, or in our hard, and we see him flinch. We’re tempted to add lube, but we know it tastes horrid. We take a gulp of water, but the wetness doesn’t last. We proceed regardless, despite the fact that it’s like sucking on sandpaper.

Suggestions: Having flavored lube on hand is key. It tastes okay, and makes his penis nice and slippery. But if lube is not available, we can use cooking oil. We can also pass on giving the blowjob.

Issue 2: He isn’t getting hard, or hard enough.
There we are sucking away, using every trick we know and he just is not responding. Is it us? Why isn’t he turned on?

Suggestions: If he’s not responding – it is not our fault!! There are endless reasons why he may not be getting hard, and it’s most likely psychological, having nothing to do with us. Just like sometimes we don’t get very wet despite our desiring sex, for men there’s even more pressure to always be able to perform.

When he doesn’t get hard or hard enough it’s best to focus on areas other than his penis. Kissing, massage, even just touching each other all over and talking can sometimes enable his mind to quiet down, and allow his body to heat up.

Issue 3: It is taking too long.
We’ve been down there for what seems like forever (5 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes?), yet he has still not climaxed. Is it because we’re bad at it?!?!? We’re tempted to stop, but we don’t want to cause “blue balls” or give the impression that we can’t handle it. But our mouth, jaw and knees can’t last much longer.

Suggestions: We are not obligated to continue performing fellatio until he climaxes. For many couples it’s a precursor to intercourse. Yet, if we want to take it all the way through we can always take a break and use our hand – or have him use his own hand. We can switch positions –- making sure his penis continues to be stimulated during the reconfigure. Also, we can tell him we are getting tired – he may have been holding back and can actually finish soon.

And if we do need to stop – he can handle it. It may be that he is unable to orgasm during the session – again, most likely for psychological reasons. If orgasm is on the horizon, he can get himself off, or he can deal with “blue balls” — an experience that sounds incredibly painful, but actually, it’s a feeling men know well.

Issue 4: Our teeth got in the way.
There we are, giving a blowjob and suddenly we realize that our focus is off and we’ve accidently hit his penis with our teeth. Eek!

Suggestion: It’s happened to all of us, and it’s happened to him before too. We shouldn’t worry about it and we should just move on.

Issue 5: His semen tastes bad.
We are all prepared to swallow, yet his semen tastes particularly unpleasant. We want to spit – but where?

Suggestion: If his semen tastes bad, we can always remove our mouth and use our hand to finish him off. Or, instead of swallowing, we can let his semen dribble back down onto his penis. If we breath through our mouth, instead of our nose while performing this act, we won’t have to taste the jizz.

Issue 6: We gag, repeatedly.
We’re attempting deep throat and we gag. This, we find, totally embarrassing because it shows we are not very experienced at it. We try again, and gag again. Where to go from there?

Suggestion: Positioning is key when deep throating. If we can position ourself so that he is standing above us – like dangling our head off the side of the bed – it becomes a lot easier. Also, if we start to perform deep throat, we don’t have to continue doing it consistently. Some women will throw in a deep throat stroke every now and again while performing a standard blowjob.

We have a lot of great videos on real-life fellatio experiences. Here are a few of the goodies …

Jump Starting His Penis
How To Give Great Oral Sex
Advice On Fellatio Positioning
To Spit Or Swallow
Fellatio Tips

On the first part of today’s episode the women, specifically Katelyn, discusses the length of time they’ll continue going down on a man before they give up. Blow jobs are hard work!! And while we discuss ways to go about it in other episodes that aren’t as taxing — Blow Job Techniques & Oral Techniques for example — if the purpose of the blow job is to reach climax, most women, at least the Cherry women, prefer sooner rather than later.

However, fellatio is often performed as foreplay — just to get him revved up for additional fun. In those cases, too soon may be … too soon!

The women also offer up additional blow job techniques on this episode. In all honesty, the timing conversation was quite short – so we edited on more content to bolster it up!

Check it out at: Fellatio Lasting Forever.

Enjoy!

Ah yes, it’s pretty much agreed upon that teeth are not welcome during any kind of oral sex.  What’s interesting though, in another panel, one of the women talks about a guy she was with who liked very light teeth use at times during fellatio.  Some men may enjoy it.  I wonder if they tend to lean more towards kink and s & m??

However, for most men, it should be avoided.  The problem is that our mouths are full of teeth!  And I’m sure during our early blow jobs, or while intoxicated, we’ve all had instances of inadvertent teeth use.  Not fun, but typical.

That said, if you find it happens more than occasionally, try changing position.  You can also practice keeping you lips tucked over your teeth.  According to http://www.icame.com

“Try placing your lips together with your teeth apart. Then open your lips slowly and keep your teeth apart and that should work perfectly.”

Hmm, sounds like a good technique.

To watch the video, click here: Teeth Use During Oral Sex

During taping, the conversation on hand use during blow jobs went on for quite a while.  The women had a lot to say about it so I split it up into three different clips (see prior entry).  During the discussion rarely did a panelist talk about not using her hands on his shaft (though Celeste mentioned she rarely does).  But check out one of the comments we received about the topic:

“I felt I have to warn: Some guys (like me) don’t actually like a hand on the shaft during a blowjob. At least I’ve never had a blowjob that actually felt -good- with a hand involved. It’s possible that with practice or time some woman somewhere would finally learn the right pressure/motion for a hand (I also generally don’t like handjobs by women), but so far I seem to much rather -just- involve the mouth for the shaft of my penis.

A hand on the balls (or behind them) on the other hand is very great. I liked the mention of hips/thighs too.”

Interesting, huh?  Personally, I prefer not to worry too much about using my hand on his shaft.  Maybe I’m just a spazz, but there’s so much to concentrate on during bjs – consistent sucking, optimum tongue use, eye contact, fondling his balls, covering my teeth, deep-throating when able, propping myself up –  that when you add coordinated hand/mouth action on his shaft too, whoa, that’s a whole new level of concentration! But many men and women love it.  And if you both are down with it – enjoy!

Watch it here: BJ Hand Use (part 3)