Many men seem to think that when a woman is on top (aka cowgirl position), she’ll climax. Sure, for many women it’s relatively easy, but for others it definitely is not a sure thing.

One variable is the degree of hardness. As Callie mentions in the video, being on top is a great way to get things going because you can straddle him when he’s not that hard. However, if he stays less than rock-solid, or becomes softer while in the position, reaching orgasm is more difficult. The key is for our clitoris to receive direct stimulation, and when a penis is less than super-hard, that stimulation isn’t as powerful.

Then there’s also the precise position while on top. Many women like it when they are sitting upright and moving their pelvis up and down. As Katie discusses, this works best either when the man manually moves the woman, or when he waits for her to set the rhythm, and he follows along (or, in some cases, does nothing!)

Other women like leaning forward while on top, basically being chest to chest with their partner. They find that configuration is better for clitoral stimulation. And while in this position a forward and back motion, as opposed to up and down, tends to work best.

Also, there’s the manner of staying comfortable. Many positions can become physically demanding after a while, and being on top is one of them. Our legs can become uncomfortable, our thighs can become sore … and all this while we’re trying to experience the pleasure of the moment and reach orgasm.

Yes, some women’s go-to orgasm position is on top, and we applaud them, but it’s not universal. It feels good for a while, but many women would agree, eventually it’s nice to move on.

Watch Video:  Sex On Top

In this video Claire Cavanah from Babeland instructs us on how to attain a G-spot orgasm (referred by Claire as “G-spotting”). The information is extremely helpful and it’s peppered with commentary on the ease and comfort we can experience in the bedroom when we simply let go and accept ourselves, as we are, sexually.

However, before we can have a G-spot orgasm, we need to identify our G-spot. Our video on finding and stimulating the G-spot can be found here.

G-spotting is intense. It’s another extremely pleasurable practice that can be integrated into our sex lives. But if you are unable to experience it, despite Claire’s guidance, do not despair. Like all orgasms, our brain plays a major role in the process and if we’re not able to relax mentally, we most likely won’t be able to relax fully physically.

But hey, there’s always next time!! And armed with techniques and understanding we’re that much closer to achieving and providing full G-spot pleasure.

Watch Video: G-Spot Orgasm

Bad Sex – whoa, have I had my share of bad sex! My first two years of college was just one big bout of bad sex. They were bad …. I was bad … the whole thing was just fumbling and awkward. There are a ton of guys out there who would think I am the last person who should be involved in a sex site.

First, my ineptitude. Often alcohol was involved — I was scared of sex and needed to be drunk in order to feel relaxed to even contemplate having intercourse. I was also incredibly self-conscious about my body. I was barely comfortable being naked by myself, not to mention with another person. And to top it all off, I didn’t masturbate at the time so I was not familiar with my sexual responses or what felt good to me.

When I did have sex, I concentrated on him – making sure he seemed to have a good time. But I wasn’t present so even though I was focused on him, I wasn’t able to sense what he needed or wanted from me. I had problems getting into the rhythm, would switch positions are weird times, and didn’t know what to do with my legs. Eek. I’m getting embarrassed just thinking about it.

Now, his ineptitude – it’s pretty basic … the jackhammer. The jackhammer that goes on, and on and on, our vagina’s get numb. I, like many women, thought, “is this what sex is about?” if so, I don’t need it.

Luckily things changed. I found my clitoris, started masturbating, and was with a few guys who were interested in my needs.

I’m older now and still encounter bad sex. Like the women in the video, if I’m in a position that doesn’t feel good, I will certainly try to maneuver out of it. Or, if something is being done to be that I don’t like, I will just start doing something to him so he stops. But unlike Katie in the video, who will direct them during the session, I will just say things like “Ouch” or “Slower” or even “You can come at any time” (heh).

It’s interesting, those first few times you’re with someone, because it is a window into how sexually compatible you are. Hopefully it’s amazing and hot right away!! But if not, through communication and honesty – if they’re worth the time – a level of sexual fulfillment can certainly be attained.

Watch Video: Bad Sex

If it hasn’t happened to you, you know a friend it has happened to – forgotten a tampon was in and inserted another, or began having sex while one was in.

In the Cherry TV video Sex and the Forgotten Tampon the women discuss times it happened to them. And while it was frightening at the time, in retrospect, the stories seem quite funny. Check it out at: Sex and the Forgotten Tampon.

However, losing a tampon within your vagina can be scary and dangerous. While it will not travel up into your uterus, infection, if left long enough, can form. The most common is bacterial vaginosis, which can be treated, but in rare situations, toxic shock syndrome can develop. Signs that you may be developing an infection are: odor, discharge, pelvic pain, and fever.

If you need to retrieve a lost tampon:

1. Wash your hands.

2. Remove any tampons that still have the string hanging out.

3. Bear down like when having a bowel movement or pushing out a baby. This can push the tampon down.

4. Gently insert one finger inside. If your index finger doesn’t go deep enough, try your middle finger.

5. Reach in as far as possible. You have reached the end of your vagina when you feel your cervix. The cervix is like an upside down bowl at the end of the vagina. Bear down while gently pressing on your cervix.

6. Sweep the vagina by making circular and back and forth motions with your finger. Try to sweep the space between the cervix and the start of the vagina. This is where tampons tend to get stuck.

7. If your finger runs into a tampon, come out. Insert two fingers (ones next to each other) and trap the tampon between them. Bear down and try to trap the lost tampon between your two fingers to withdraw it.

If you can’t get it out, go to a doctor or clinic. Also, if you don’t feel anything but sense you may have left one in, or are just uncomfortable searching on your own, seek medical help. Don’t delay or be embarrassed. Situations like this are unfortunately a by-product of being a woman!

Welcome to the new Cherry TV blog!  Despite blogs being “so 2004″ as a number of Internet journalist declare, we wanted a convient way to communicate with viewers and post fun stuff, so … here we go!

So, who am I?  I’m the creator of Cherry TV.  I had wanted to avoid presenting anything personal about my sex life, or myself, but have come to terms with it since we decided we need a blog (and all “how to blog” articles say “be personal!”).

So … basically, I created Cherry TV for my younger self. When I was in college  –  I was scared of sex.  I was completely self-conscious about my body and felt most comfortable having sex when I was drunk.  As I got older I didn’t think I was very good at it and didn’t know where to turn to learn more.

I also didn’t masturbate much and wasn’t in tuned to my own sexual responses.

The rest of the story is on the site at http://www.cherrytv.com/about.php

But Cherry TV isn’t just for women who aren’t comfortable with sex – we hope!  We try to be as inclusive as possible and hope all women who want to learn more about sex and hear fun stories log on.   And we want to hear from you –  what you want, what you like and what you don’t.  Truly, there are so many ways to explore sex, we want to insure our audience is benefiting from our content.

That’s a good first post, I think … I hope.  These things aren’t supposed to be too long I hear.

Oh, one last thing … sometimes my grammar is whacked and I tend to create a ridiculous amount of typos.  I’m crazy careful on the site, but honestly, I just don’t have the time to worry about it too much here.  This blog is already adding to my crazy-arse daily workload, so if I had to worry about grammar, arg.  Okay, that’s my copy disclaimer.