So yeah, today’s video is about relationship sex – but I want to chime in about hook ups!

Getting together with someone always sounds a lot easier than it really is.  Although my boy friend and I got together through hooking up, it was six months of excruciating mind fucks and game playing (which I totally denied doing).

He had TWO other girlfriends.  One who lived over seas, and the other, this other little biddy who was totally obsessed with him.  When she found out that we had made out, she lost her shit.  And to top it off, I went to her going away party, fully knowing that I had made out with her man!

The great thing about hooking up before actually jumping into a relationship with a person, is that you get to know a lot about them.  Don’t get me wrong, you are not going to know them inside and out, but it cuts out a lot of the relationship bullshit that usually occurs within the first three to four months.  It lets you see the person for who they really are (well as much as they will allow you), and it allows you to kind of try that person on; much like a shoe. You can get to know a lot about a person through pillow talk, which of course does not happen at first, but occurs over time (there is no way that it can’t in my opinion). You have just had sex together, you are both at your most vulnerable, it can be a really beautiful thing.

The one thing that I did learn inside and out about my boyfriend, is his body!  I knew everything about his body BEFORE WE WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP! This does not sound like a big thing, but I feel like it is.  We got to play with each other and figure out what the other person likes before we were calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, which means that there was no pressure!  It was great!  There was no awkward sex, it was like we were two grown ass kids in a sandbox (each others sandbox).  By the time that we got together I could see, move and work his body with my eyes closed. It was and still is a really wonderful thing.

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There was an Op Ed in the New York Times
the other day about “hooking up” and how we’re no longer dating, but going out in groups and having sex with friends, or friends of friends … we may become friends with benefits … but if the opportunity (and interest) is there, we’ll move on to the next hook-up.

And this is supposed to be news?

I’m reading this article and thinking about today’s video — having sex, for a long time, without ever having had an orgasm. And I’m thinking about the millions of girls out there whose majority of “numbers” are somewhat drunken hookups … and therefore have never experienced orgasm.

Especially if they do not masturbate and don’t know what orgasm even feels like. I’ve had so many conversations where friends have said “I think I’ve had an orgasm” – translation, I don’t really think I’ve had one but that’s crazy because I’ve had so much sex!

While hook-ups are fun, they unfortunately don’t tend to result in the best sex. In our society sex revolves around the guy getting off. It’s not sex unless he climaxes. If we come – bonus (there are many men who don’t feel this way, but society as a whole dictates that ideal)!

Since hook ups tend to be short-lived we’re not able to be with someone long enough to learn each others bodies, open up, and figure out together what we, as an equal partner, need out of the session to climax or at least get close.

And of course, as we say all the time on Cherry TV – masturbating certainly helps one reach orgasm. It enables you to know what gets you off, so you can then show your partner. Yeah, he/she can try to figure out, but it will probably take a lot longer that way.

Hook-ups will always be a part of single life (if you’re into it, if you’re not – don’t do it!!!). The key is to make them as fulfilling as possible. Reaching orgasm is a great way to do it!

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