My partner looks very young for his age by no fault of his own. He has a clean-shaven baby’s face and it doesn’t help that he’s short. He always gets carded when we go out, he has been mistaken for a peer at a ten year-olds birthday party and in the funniest of stories, upon jumping into  the back of a taxi late one night, a concerned cab driver asked him “Where is your mommy?” I love my partner’s physically characteristics: his jet-black hair against his alabaster skin, his muscular legs and of course his motley colored eyes; just not his childlike appearance.

Once in an attempt to mix things up, he shaved off all is pubic hair. When asked what I thought, I replied that I felt like a cradle robber. His response was an infant like “Goo!”

It did make sex different; there was less hair to get in the way during fellatio and my partner and I engaged in role playing scenarios that involved me being with a stranger.

Sex can be messy and awkward – and one of the activities that can cause one or both parties to be uncomfortable is fellatio. Here we gathered some issues that can arise while going down on a guy. And if you thought they only happened to you – think again…

Issue 1: We’ve Got Dry mouth.
We’ve always heard “the wetter the better,” yet we just can’t seem to get the saliva flowing. We try spitting, either directly on his penis, or in our hard, and we see him flinch. We’re tempted to add lube, but we know it tastes horrid. We take a gulp of water, but the wetness doesn’t last. We proceed regardless, despite the fact that it’s like sucking on sandpaper.

Suggestions: Having flavored lube on hand is key. It tastes okay, and makes his penis nice and slippery. But if lube is not available, we can use cooking oil. We can also pass on giving the blowjob.

Issue 2: He isn’t getting hard, or hard enough.
There we are sucking away, using every trick we know and he just is not responding. Is it us? Why isn’t he turned on?

Suggestions: If he’s not responding – it is not our fault!! There are endless reasons why he may not be getting hard, and it’s most likely psychological, having nothing to do with us. Just like sometimes we don’t get very wet despite our desiring sex, for men there’s even more pressure to always be able to perform.

When he doesn’t get hard or hard enough it’s best to focus on areas other than his penis. Kissing, massage, even just touching each other all over and talking can sometimes enable his mind to quiet down, and allow his body to heat up.

Issue 3: It is taking too long.
We’ve been down there for what seems like forever (5 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes?), yet he has still not climaxed. Is it because we’re bad at it?!?!? We’re tempted to stop, but we don’t want to cause “blue balls” or give the impression that we can’t handle it. But our mouth, jaw and knees can’t last much longer.

Suggestions: We are not obligated to continue performing fellatio until he climaxes. For many couples it’s a precursor to intercourse. Yet, if we want to take it all the way through we can always take a break and use our hand – or have him use his own hand. We can switch positions –- making sure his penis continues to be stimulated during the reconfigure. Also, we can tell him we are getting tired – he may have been holding back and can actually finish soon.

And if we do need to stop – he can handle it. It may be that he is unable to orgasm during the session – again, most likely for psychological reasons. If orgasm is on the horizon, he can get himself off, or he can deal with “blue balls” — an experience that sounds incredibly painful, but actually, it’s a feeling men know well.

Issue 4: Our teeth got in the way.
There we are, giving a blowjob and suddenly we realize that our focus is off and we’ve accidently hit his penis with our teeth. Eek!

Suggestion: It’s happened to all of us, and it’s happened to him before too. We shouldn’t worry about it and we should just move on.

Issue 5: His semen tastes bad.
We are all prepared to swallow, yet his semen tastes particularly unpleasant. We want to spit – but where?

Suggestion: If his semen tastes bad, we can always remove our mouth and use our hand to finish him off. Or, instead of swallowing, we can let his semen dribble back down onto his penis. If we breath through our mouth, instead of our nose while performing this act, we won’t have to taste the jizz.

Issue 6: We gag, repeatedly.
We’re attempting deep throat and we gag. This, we find, totally embarrassing because it shows we are not very experienced at it. We try again, and gag again. Where to go from there?

Suggestion: Positioning is key when deep throating. If we can position ourself so that he is standing above us – like dangling our head off the side of the bed – it becomes a lot easier. Also, if we start to perform deep throat, we don’t have to continue doing it consistently. Some women will throw in a deep throat stroke every now and again while performing a standard blowjob.

We have a lot of great videos on real-life fellatio experiences. Here are a few of the goodies …

Jump Starting His Penis
How To Give Great Oral Sex
Advice On Fellatio Positioning
To Spit Or Swallow
Fellatio Tips

There are times when the mood strikes to give great oral sex. There can be something very empowering in knowing that you have the ability to give your partner complete satisfaction by performing phenomenal fellatio (or cunnilingus, though for the sake of this article, we’ll be focusing on fellatio).

It can be as intimate as intercourse, or even more so. It isn’t always just about a “blow job.” Sometimes it is about connecting with your partner in different ways with a variety of techniques and exploring their bodies and learning more about what they enjoy. Giving your partner a blissful oral experience can merit a sense of pride, closeness and self-satisfaction.

Of course it’s important to demonstrate good basic blow job techniques, for some of these tips you can refer to some other CherryTV articles:

- Blow Job Hand Use

- Deep Throat

- BJ Hand Use (Part 3)

- Tending to the Testicles

Here are a few more techniques that I recommend to bring oral sex to a more intimate and intense level:

Eye Contact

Eye contact is equally important during a first impression and a job interview as it is during oral sex. Some men love this, some don’t care…you don’t really know until you try it. It is generally most effective when his entire penis is in your mouth or you are licking the length of it with some complimentary hand motions. Your gaze shouldn’t necessarily be for a lengthy period of time but just locking eyes between motions or even speeds of your hand and mouth can be really sexy and intimate.

The Full Body Blow Job

Of course it is important to focus on all parts of the package. The best to “other” spots to focus on (in order of importance): behind the knees, top of the feet and behind the ears and neck. The best time to go for any of these extra is when the penis is fully submersed in your mouth, so take a mouthful and run your hands down his legs and to the back of his knees and just trace the line there, go down to his feet, on top of his calves, stop back up at the package for a mini hand job and then repeat. If you want to take a break in between and go to the ear/neck/collar bone area, that is totally allowed and encouraged as long as you aren’t missing from the package for too long.

These erogenous zones will be sure to enhance the entire experience and help you to really connect with your partner and put him over the edge (in a great way of course!)

Check out all our videos on the topic!!! Cherry TV Oral Sex Videos

Some men like it hot…but all like it wet. The MOST important foundation to a successful BJ is to get his penis as wet as you possibly can and keep it that way for the duration of the exercise. You can do this with your mouth or use lube if you prefer. If you chose to forgo the lube, you don’t want to directly spit on it, but when you first insert the penis into your mouth try to gather a lot of saliva, this should be your main goal—think slip and slide. At this preliminary stage do not worry about your where your hands are, how you look , or if he likes it…the answer is yes to all!

Once you have the penis well lubricated, you should move on to what I like to call the “V spot” - the indentations on either side of the package. It is best to start from bottom to top and lick from the top (side almost) of the ball sack up to the hip bone. Repeat on other side. Trace the lines you made with your tongue with your thumb and index finger. It is fine to concentrate on one side at a time naturally, but the idea is to be able to give a lubricated massage around the package.

So you should be able to have a pretty good introductory rhythm: hands on either side of the package, entire penis in your mouth from bottom to top, then tongue only from bottom to top.

By now, your man should be relaxed and thoroughly enjoying the situation and the penis should be well lubricated and easy to work with. This is the perfect time to bring your hand into play. Now don’t worry if you don’t think you are good at hand jobs and you had an embarrassing experience in your adolescent past, this isn’t the same as a 2nd base hand job. Grab the penis with your whole hand and start to move it up and down nice and slow. The key to good hand motion during a BJ is to keep your hand flexible, and variety. I like to start at the base of the shaft with my pinkie and then one by one fan each finger around the penis until it is enclosed in my loose fist. As you fan your fingers and close your hand tighter move up the shaft and then come back down with the closed fist. It is important to keep your hand loose and in constant motion coming on and off the penis at different levels.

It is very important not to forget about his balls – and you have a few options. If you want to go ahead and put them in your mouth, go for it….just be careful. It can be like two dogs in a bathtub, as soon as you get one in, the other will normally jump out. Don’t sweat it, this isn’t a key element. As long as you get both balls involved at some point, you should be okay (when you are playing with balls, it is ideal to keep the hand motion on his penis as to create a “full package experience”). Scared to put them in your mouth? Totally understandable. By now the entire area should be pretty wet, so you should be able to cup his balls and gently play with them as you continue with your up and down motion with your hand and mouth.

If possible integrate all of the actions mentioned above during the entire blow job. You should have a good balance of a “v spot” massage, licking the length, totally in your mouth, hand motion and balls. I like to think of it as choreography, you have the steps down, now you just have to create a routine. Good luck and enjoy!!!

And check out these videos for more help: Fellatio Hand Tips, Tending To His Testices

Research shows that most women cannot reach orgasm through intercourse alone. However, through cunnilingus, it seems that the majority of women are able to hit the ‘Big O.’ This may not come as a shocking surprise. After all, the clitoris receives much more attention during oral sex. With 8,000 nerve fibers, this extraordinary organ has tremendous potential for sexual pleasure. So, here’s a few tips for success on your oral.

Tips for Giving Good Cunnilingus

Communication: Talking to your partner and taking constructive criticism can be some of the most difficult aspects of a sexual relationship. Yet, communication (of some sort or another) is vital to ensure both partners’ pleasure. For specific communication tips, check out our past article on sexual communication.

Warm-up: Begin by stimulating other erogenous zones, besides the clitoris. Lick, touch, and nibble on body parts such as the lips, ears, inner arms, anus, neck, clavicle, and nipples. (Not everyone’s erogenous zones are located at the exact same locations. It may take time and experimentation to find the spots that feel best.) Why is foreplay important? This type of stimulation can result in considerable blood flow to the genitals, which most women find to be a crucial first step for good oral sex. Stimulation of the erogenous zones also increases lubrication, which helps to protect the clitoris from irritation.

Different Techniques: There are many different variations of oral sex, which can be accomplished by switching up various pressures and patterns. Try everything from light licking to sucking. (Ask your partner for advice!) In regards to patterns, a popular trick is to use the tongue to spell out the alphabet over the clitoris. This technique provides many different types of shapes and sensations. Also, experiment with incorporating vaginal and/or anal penetration. You can use your fingers or sex toys.

Over-stimulation? If your partner complains that her clitoris feels too sensitive or painful, you’ll need to immediately readjust. She’s likely experiencing over-stimulation. If you had previously been holding the clitoral hood up to lick, this may be part of the problem. Though this technique is often effective in ‘small doses,’ many women complain that it can become overwhelming. You may also want to try pausing in between licks as well as reducing the pressure of your tongue. However, if your partner asks you to stop, quit! Take it as a learning-lesson, and, if you’re both interested, try again another time.

Tips for Receiving Good Cunnilingus

Position yourself: Feeling relaxed is critical for most women to be able to clear their minds and, consequently, reach orgasm. (Much of a woman’s orgasm is dependent on her mental state. In fact, some women have reported reaching orgasm with no physical touch at all!) So, test out different positions to find what’s most comfortable for your body, keeping in mind that the position may have to be maintained for an extended period of time. Popular positions include laying flat on the back with legs bent; sitting on a bed or chair; and squatting on all fours above the partner’s face in the ‘69’ position. For more details on ‘69’, see our past article on this position.

Take matters into your own hands: Whether you don’t have a partner or you simply want to get to know your body better, there are ways to simulate the feeling of oral sex on yourself. One method is to use a ‘tongue’ sex-toy. These little gadgets have a similar texture to the human tongue. They also operate with lapping motions, rather than vibrations. To find one, search online or in select stores.

For more information on cunnilingus, check out the following videos:

Tongue Use On Us During Cunnilingus
Bad Cunnilingus from a Woman
Climaxing from Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus Positioning

There are many myths about anal sex which need to be put to rest. First of all, it’s not just for homosexual couples. Anal sex is, in fact, practiced by every gender and sexual orientation. Secondly, anal sex does not only designate penile-anal sex. There are many different types of anal play, involving the penis, tongue, fists, fingers, dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, anal beads, and so on. Thirdly, anal sex is not necessarily a dangerous activity. Like with any other type of sexual play, risks can certainly be reduced through education and safety precautions. In this article, you’ll learn more about some of the different types of anal sex as well as how to reduce the risks involved with each.

How-To Reduce the Risks of Anal Sex

Barebacking: Sex without a condom. (This frequently refers to insertion of the penis into the anus.) Barebacking is generally considered to be a high-risk activity, due to the potential of transmitting STDs and HIV, as well as tearing muscle. (Note: By tearing muscle, one will be even more susceptible to STDs and HIV).
Risk Reduction:
(a) As Ducky says, make sure to load up on the lube to prevent muscle tear. If you think you put too much on, you should probably put on more. Lubricated condoms are not enough on their own.
(b) Always use a condom to reduce risks of STDs and HIV.  Do not move the condom from the anus to the vagina.  You’ll need to switch condoms in between.  Also, stay away from condoms with spermicide. These can seriously irritate the rectum.

Rimming: Oral stimulation of the anus. Like other types of oral sex, you’ll run the risk of STD transmission. In regards to HIV, it’s hypothetically possible that blood could be in the stool or on the anus, which could transmit HIV. It’s probably a good idea to use a barrier method, just in case.
Risk Reduction:
(a) Use a dental dam to lower the risk of STDs and HIV. Spread the latex barrier out between both hands, covering the area you plan on stimulating.
(b) Some doctors have also recommended cutting a condom lengthwise. Of course, using a knife or scissor on a condom increases the risk of accidently poking a hole. Yet, if you don’t have access to a dental dam, this may be a good option.

Fisting: Inserting the fist into any orifice of the body (including anus, vagina, and mouth.) Fisting can be a high-risk behavior, due to the potential of tearing muscle. It can also involve the transmission of STDs.
Risk Reduction:
(a) Relax/breathe slowly/communicate. This activity requires considerable trust. Many couples begin with just one finger and slowly work up to the entire fist. Don’t rush into this! And, like Ducky says, if it hurts, you need to stop.
(b) Wear latex gloves to reduce the risk of spreading STDs.
(c) Whether or not you use a glove, make sure to cut your fingernails and keep your hands clean. Long nails can tear the glove and/or muscle tissue.

By reviewing this list, you should have a general idea of the main types of health risks involved with anal sex [i.e. the transmission of STDs and HIV/muscle tear]. As you can see, most of these risks can be reduced through the use of lube, condoms, and open-communication.

Check out our videos to find out more about precautions and perks of anal play:
How To Have Safe Anal Sex
Anal Sex FAQs
Anal Sex Mess
Anal Sex Toys

Sure, it may be the most popular number in Junior High bathroom stalls… But, for many, ‘69′ is a timeless favorite between the sheets. Named after the way in which the numbers 6 and 9 fit perfectly together, this position has many variations, which allow for partners to both give and receive oral sex simultaneously. There’s partner (a) on top, partner (b) on top, side-to-side/head-to-toe, standing, and so on and so forth. Many appreciate ‘69′ for the [literal] in-your-face intimacy it requires. Yet, for others, that vulnerability is precisely what makes it an unappealing position. If you’re keen on the idea (but are still feeling a little uneasy), here’s a few tips for mathematical bliss.

Tips for the ‘69′ Position:

(1) Shower first. In ‘69,’ you might as well forget the concept of personal space. Your genitals will, in fact, be up close and personal. If you don’t feel clean, this position can be extremely unnerving. So, do whatever preparations are necessary for you to personally feel attractive in the ‘69′ position. [On a similar note, you'll likely want your partner to do the same. If you find it awkward to bring up, suggest showering together beforehand. Not only can it make '69' more pleasurable, but it can also act as foreplay.]

(2) Experiment with weight/pressure. Depending on the variation of ‘69,’ you might be dealing with the body weight of your partner on top of you (or vice-versa). To some (including Alex on this episode), this is a very positive experience. Others find it uncomfortable or distracting. Experiment with different variations in order to find an arrangement that’s comfortable for both you and your partner.

(3) Use delayed starts. In most relationships, both partners do not tend to orgasm at exactly the same moment. Therefore, it might be useful for one person to start performing oral sex before the other begins. (Be forewarned that the visual aspect of ‘69′ has been known to send many off the deep end much more quickly than in other positions. Timing will be something to work on.)

(4) Give your partner a hand. As a person approaches orgasm in ‘69,’ it’s often difficult to continue focusing on the giving aspect of oral sex. At this point, it may be useful to incorporate the hands instead. (And for those who clench their jaws together during orgasm, please take this as a friendly yet firm suggestion from me to you!)

Certainly, this position can prove to be a challenge.  Yet, for many, ‘69′ is no longer an odd number.  Tips on oral sex may also help to improve your experience…

For some general tips on oral sex, check out these past postings on our blog: Oral Sex Topics

Also, find out more tips on our episode Oral Sex Tricks

The deep throat is not necessary for all BJs, although it is important to keep in your bag of tricks. It is like having a really bold lip gloss color…you aren’t going to wear it everyday, but you should be prepared if a special occasion or whim arises…

A lot of women say, “Oh no, I choke and gag…I can’t do it.” Well, that may be because they aren’t doing it the right way. Some women will try to shove the penis down the back of their throat…that is why they gag. Now for those of us that may be blessed enough to be born sans gag reflex, this is fine. For the rest of us, the trick is back and up. There is a space between the top of your pallet and where the roof of your mouth meets the uvula. It’s soft and feels a little spongy, test it with your finger first to make sure you know the spot. That is the target for the tip of the penis. When the penis goes into the back of your mouth, guide it up in that spot and you can even apply some pressure to it by pushing down on the head a little. This pressure will usually feel like you are swallowing it whole, which is generally most desirable for your partner.

It is very challenging to give a deep throat only blow job….nearly impossible I think. You need to throw some other things into the mix like hand motions, ball-cupping and tongue massaging to switch it up!

We know it isn’t easy, but that’s why it’s called a job…

Check out our videos on this topic: Deep Throat Techniques,  Help With Deep Throat, How To Give Great Deep Throat

The women talk about balls as being sensitive in this video, but from what I understand, they are a little hardier than we think.  That’s not to say some guys won’t flinch if you suddenly grab one, but they can be played with a little more force than we may be used to.  But still … watch those nails!!

Ball play doesn’t only have to occur during blowjobs.  Some guys dig it whenever! A tip I learned from “A Guide to Getting It On” is to have your man lie face down on the bed and lightly massage the back part of his scrotum with your fingertips.  At times, even venture towards his perineum (aka Taint – the area between the balls and anus).  It’s quite a turn on when combined with the sensation of your breasts rubbing his side and back, and your legs and vulva straddling different areas of his lower body.  Hot, huh?!?

Another ball play “how to” is to fondle them during sex.  There are a number of positions during intercourse where his balls can be reached and played with including doggie style (from between your legs), on top (reach behind) or reverse on top (hello balls!).  But if playing with his balls becomes too distracting, stop.  Orgasm isn’t easy, and sometimes it takes all our attention to get there.  As I am sure he would agree, no need to waste that energy on his balls!

Watch Video:  Tending To His Testicles

Today’s episode is basically about giving cunnilingus (I wish we had a better name for this other than “eating out!”) – and whether the Cherry TV women like their partner to tell them what’s working and what’s not. Never having given cunnilingus (nor having received from a woman), I can only talk about my experience on the receiving end of a guy. And honestly, I find it very difficult to provide adequate verbal instruction.

I don’t climax easily (or quickly!!) from oral regardless, and I’ve found the boys/men I’ve been with are either already good at it, or not. But I am not able to instruct a guy into doing it the way I like. Granted, that’s on me — and maybe if I had a little more confidence I would be able to.

But then I have to decide if it’s worth it. Some men seem to learn quite quickly, others, though they are present and eager to please, still seem to forget what it is I like over past lovers. And, in those cases, when it comes to oral sex, I would rather just give them the tap and get back to fucking, smooching, and all that other fun stuff!

To Watch Video: Receiving Oral and Helping Out