Today’s episode is basically about giving cunnilingus (I wish we had a better name for this other than “eating out!”) – and whether the Cherry TV women like their partner to tell them what’s working and what’s not. Never having given cunnilingus (nor having received from a woman), I can only talk about my experience on the receiving end of a guy. And honestly, I find it very difficult to provide adequate verbal instruction.

I don’t climax easily (or quickly!!) from oral regardless, and I’ve found the boys/men I’ve been with are either already good at it, or not. But I am not able to instruct a guy into doing it the way I like. Granted, that’s on me — and maybe if I had a little more confidence I would be able to.

But then I have to decide if it’s worth it. Some men seem to learn quite quickly, others, though they are present and eager to please, still seem to forget what it is I like over past lovers. And, in those cases, when it comes to oral sex, I would rather just give them the tap and get back to fucking, smooching, and all that other fun stuff!

This episode was a lot of fun to shoot. The women chosen to sit on the panel were all experienced in giving and receiving cunnilingus – and all had definite views on the topic.

Watching these clips I’m reminded of how sexual responses and preferences are so subjective. While there are certain things that are universally enjoyed (for the most part) – there’s a lot that’s not. What feels good to one person doesn’t to another … and we’re talking physically here. The emotional/physiological aspects of sexual enjoyment are a whole other story – but in terms of basic sensation, we’re all different … and we change over time. Isn’t it awesome!?!?! I think it makes sex that much more exciting. There are continuously new things to try …. new techniques to master …. new activities to experiment with. Like the dual penetration discussed on this episode. I personally haven’t been there – but after hearing the women discuss it, I’m raring to go!

Ah yes, it’s pretty much agreed upon that teeth are not welcome during any kind of oral sex.  What’s interesting though, in another panel, one of the women talks about a guy she was with who liked very light teeth use at times during fellatio.  Some men may enjoy it.  I wonder if they tend to lean more towards kink and s & m??

However, for most men, it should be avoided.  The problem is that our mouths are full of teeth!  And I’m sure during our early blow jobs, or while intoxicated, we’ve all had instances of inadvertent teeth use.  Not fun, but typical.

That said, if you find it happens more than occasionally, try changing position.  You can also practice keeping you lips tucked over your teeth.  According to http://www.icame.com

“Try placing your lips together with your teeth apart. Then open your lips slowly and keep your teeth apart and that should work perfectly.”

Hmm, sounds like a good technique.

During taping, the conversation on hand use during blow jobs went on for quite a while.  The women had a lot to say about it so I split it up into three different clips (see prior entry).  During the discussion rarely did a panelist talk about not using her hands on his shaft (though Celeste mentioned she rarely does).  But check out one of the comments we received about the topic:

“I felt I have to warn: Some guys (like me) don’t actually like a hand on the shaft during a blowjob. At least I’ve never had a blowjob that actually felt -good- with a hand involved. It’s possible that with practice or time some woman somewhere would finally learn the right pressure/motion for a hand (I also generally don’t like handjobs by women), but so far I seem to much rather -just- involve the mouth for the shaft of my penis.

A hand on the balls (or behind them) on the other hand is very great. I liked the mention of hips/thighs too.”

Interesting, huh?  Personally, I prefer not to worry too much about using my hand on his shaft.  Maybe I’m just a spazz, but there’s so much to concentrate on during bjs – consistent sucking, optimum tongue use, eye contact, fondling his balls, covering my teeth, deep-throating when able, propping myself up –  that when you add coordinated hand/mouth action on his shaft too, whoa, that’s a whole new level of concentration! But many men and women love it.  And if you both are down with it – enjoy!

Watch it here: http://www.cherrytv.com/video/bj-hand-use-part-3