Everyone has different taste in hairstyles, whether it’s on your head, or between your legs. Long, short, curly, tamed, bleached, colored, trendy or bare there are many different options. There are a variety of factors that can determine a style such as: maintenance, time, generational norms, and personal and partner preferences. Some men and women in there late 30s+ may gravitate towards a more natural appearance, because they were exposed to a lot of “full bush” in porn and magazines growing up. While on the other hand, an active member of the millennial generation like me, may tend to go almost totally bare down there.

However, getting silky smooth results can be a challenge, and maintenance can definitely be a pain (literally) as well as a strain on your pocket book. Brazilian (everything off) and Parisian (landing strip only) waxes can give amazingly smooth results, but they can also be excruciatingly painful and expensive ranging anywhere from $55-$125. Touch ups at the salon can cost almost as much and I have honestly been charged $25 more just to flip over!! But it isn’t just the pain and cost of going bare that can be cons, it’s also the patience. Before getting a wax, it is recommended that you grow out for at least 2 weeks, and if you’re used to a barely there lifestyle, that can seem like an eternity! After dabbling in quite a few waxes, I took matters into my own hands and figured out a few techniques how to get Brazilian results on a Bic budget.

What you will need:
- A coarse sugar scrub
- A loofah (optional)
- Shaving cream
- A razor (at least a triple blade for best results)
- Baby oil

Step One
It is imperative to exfoliate the area you are shaving thoroughly. This is what will alleviate the discomfort and appearance of ingrown hairs and/or razor burn. Using either a loofah or just your hands if you prefer, generously work the sugar scrub in a circular motion to remove all dead or dry skin and make your area fresh. The granules in the scrub can be a little abrasive, but it beats the tearing off of a wax strip any day! Think of it as sanding something before you paint it, if you put a fresh coat of paint over an old or dry surface, your results certainly won’t be ideal.

Step Two
Apply your preferred selection of shaving cream generously. With your razor, you want to start with strokes going against the hair, just as you would shave your legs. Your pores should be open from the exfoliating, so going from bottom to top shouldn’t be a problem. You should find that your razor is moving along smoothly over your freshly exfoliated skin.

Step Three
Cold water closes pores. So on your way out of the shower, as you are turning the water off, give yourself a quick blast with the cool water and then pat dry. You should be feeling smooth and silky. To lock in moisture and to stay soft, apply baby oil for lasting results. If you’re really feeling in a perfectionist mood, you can whip out the tweezers to catch any strays, but it can start to get painful after a while!

And it’s that easy! The only downfall is that when a real Brazilian wax’s results last for up to 2-3 weeks, and unfortunately with a shave, your hair tends to start to grow back about 2-3 days later. However, it is a faster, more cost-effective and less painful option to achieve a beautiful smooth and sexy vagina.

Whenever I thought about the dominant/submissive power dynamic, I had always imagined a master/slave relationship. It wasn’t until I had been having sex for a while that I realized during simple vanilla intercourse, a power dynamic was being played out.

Often it’s not verbalized, but during sex someone tends to set the pace … decides upon the position …establishes the rhythm. Granted, it doesn’t always have to be the same person – as Celeste so aptly says in the video “we throw the ball back and forth” – but regardless, there is a leader and a follower during sex.

We talk about the definitions more here: Sexual Power Plays

In lesbian relationships, it doesn’t seem unusual for the roles to be more firmly established. There’s a “top” and a “bottom” and the top is primarily in control. If the bottom wants to take control – referred to as “topping from the bottom” – it’s only through delicate negotiation with the top that this happens (Please note, I have never been in a lesbian relationship. This information is what I heard anecdotally. We welcome ANY comments regarding …).

I must say, I’m much more conscious of the power dynamic since taping this piece. Some men, I have found, are dominant through and through. Any attempt to take control is quickly squashed. Other guys enjoy be submissive. They are happy with the woman taking leading and going with it. However, in those cases, I have found open communication is super-important. Because, unlike a dominant guy who will just put you in position, a submissive guy has to be told where to go (for ex. “let’s go doggie!”). And of course, many men like both roles!

It’s such a rich topic because there are so many gray areas. Everyone’s experience is totally unique. But it’s worth noticing because the more present we are during sex, the better sex it will eventually be!

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I’ve always found the connection between smell and physical attraction so interesting. It’s that whole sex pheromone thing – highly individualized chemicals our body emits for the purpose of attraction. Within the animal kingdom, pheromones play a large role in many species reproduction process.

The interesting thing though about pheromones is that what/who smells good to one person, does not to another. CNN.com reports “According to an article in ‘Psychology Today,’ how our body odors are perceived as pleasant and sexy to another person is a highly selective process. We usually smell best to a person whose genetically based immunity to disease differs most from our own. This could benefit you in the long run, making for stronger, healthier children.” Interesting, huh?!?!

I was reminded of this recently during a string of dates (yeah, I did it the old fashioned way – internet dating. heh). Over a period of about six weeks I went out with many men and had decided beforehand that if I found them the least bit attractive and/or interesting, I would invite him up for a make-out session (because you never know … a relatively plain guy who’s an amazing kisser all of a sudden isn’t so plain!).

Unrelated to how good the session was sometimes I needed to pop into the shower as soon as he left. Other times, I was able to finish whatever work I had to do that night (like upload the next day’s video) and hold off on the shower until I went to bed.

I’m sure we’ve all been there – partners who smell good regardless, and others, not so much. And maybe it’s not all pheromones – whether we like the way our partner smells - general body odor, perfumes, smoking, and other stuff I don’t know about most likely play a role too. But that pheromones thing, cool right? Of course, you can buy laboratory created pheromones to pump them up. But they’re expensive and you’ll have to find that link on your own.

Watch Video: Dirty Sexy Smells