So yeah, today’s video is about relationship sex – but I want to chime in about hook ups!

Getting together with someone always sounds a lot easier than it really is.  Although my boy friend and I got together through hooking up, it was six months of excruciating mind fucks and game playing (which I totally denied doing).

He had TWO other girlfriends.  One who lived over seas, and the other, this other little biddy who was totally obsessed with him.  When she found out that we had made out, she lost her shit.  And to top it off, I went to her going away party, fully knowing that I had made out with her man!

The great thing about hooking up before actually jumping into a relationship with a person, is that you get to know a lot about them.  Don’t get me wrong, you are not going to know them inside and out, but it cuts out a lot of the relationship bullshit that usually occurs within the first three to four months.  It lets you see the person for who they really are (well as much as they will allow you), and it allows you to kind of try that person on; much like a shoe. You can get to know a lot about a person through pillow talk, which of course does not happen at first, but occurs over time (there is no way that it can’t in my opinion). You have just had sex together, you are both at your most vulnerable, it can be a really beautiful thing.

The one thing that I did learn inside and out about my boyfriend, is his body!  I knew everything about his body BEFORE WE WERE IN A RELATIONSHIP! This does not sound like a big thing, but I feel like it is.  We got to play with each other and figure out what the other person likes before we were calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, which means that there was no pressure!  It was great!  There was no awkward sex, it was like we were two grown ass kids in a sandbox (each others sandbox).  By the time that we got together I could see, move and work his body with my eyes closed. It was and still is a really wonderful thing.

Watch Video: Relationship Sex, Part 1

The videos in which the women talk about their masturbation techniques are some of my favorites!  It’s the essence of what we want to do on Cherry TV – let other women know that it’s good and natural to masturbate … that it will enhance their sex lives, and that there are endless ways to do it!

As you’ll see in this video, some women are happy with clitoral stimulation only. Others like to insert. Most of the women on this panel came to masturbating when they were older (post-adolescence). They had tried when they were younger, but didn’t get anything out of it. When they got older they incorporated a vibrator and found it really helped.

I love some of the tips the women offer.  I feel as if there is always something new to learn about masturbation (and sex!). Dual action, fun.  And in the sun – never went there, but will certainly try it out now!

It’s truly unfortunate that in 2009 female masturbation is still such a taboo/dirty subject.  I missed these episodes, but supposedly Oprah talked about it, and it the feedback she received was, shall we say, rather heated. Our friends at Radical Left talk all about it — Oprah on Masturbation.

Hopefully though with more of us talking about it, things will get better.  So many women don’t feel confident in the bedroom, and don’t enjoy sex as much as they can. That’s why we’re here!! Providing advice and helping women achieve sexual satisfaction is our mission in 2009 and beyond!

If it hasn’t happened to you, you know a friend it has happened to – forgotten a tampon was in and inserted another, or began having sex while one was in.

In the Cherry TV video Sex and the Forgotten Tampon the women discuss times it happened to them. And while it was frightening at the time, in retrospect, the stories seem quite funny. Check it out at: Sex and the Forgotten Tampon

However, losing a tampon within your vagina can be scary and dangerous. While it will not travel up into your uterus, infection, if left long enough, can form. The most common is bacterial vaginosis, which can be treated, but in rare situations, toxic shock syndrome can develop. Signs that you may be developing an infection are: odor, discharge, pelvic pain, and fever.

If you need to retrieve a lost tampon:

1. Wash your hands.

2. Remove any tampons that still have the string hanging out.

3. Bear down like when having a bowel movement or pushing out a baby. This can push the tampon down.

4. Gently insert one finger inside. If your index finger doesn’t go deep enough, try your middle finger.

5. Reach in as far as possible. You have reached the end of your vagina when you feel your cervix. The cervix is like an upside down bowl at the end of the vagina. Bear down while gently pressing on your cervix.

6. Sweep the vagina by making circular and back and forth motions with your finger. Try to sweep the space between the cervix and the start of the vagina. This is where tampons tend to get stuck.

7. If your finger runs into a tampon, come out. Insert two fingers (ones next to each other) and trap the tampon between them. Bear down and try to trap the lost tampon between your two fingers to withdraw it.

If you can’t get it out, go to a doctor or clinic. Also, if you don’t feel anything but sense you may have left one in, or are just uncomfortable searching on your own, seek medical help. Don’t delay or be embarrassed. Situations like this are unfortunately a by-product of being a woman!

Welcome to the new Cherry TV blog!  Despite blogs being “so 2004″ as a number of Internet journalist declare, we wanted a convient way to communicate with viewers and post fun stuff, so … here we go!

So, who am I?  I’m the creator of Cherry TV.  I had wanted to avoid presenting anything personal about my sex life, or myself, but have come to terms with it since we decided we need a blog (and all “how to blog” articles say “be personal!”).

So … basically, I created Cherry TV for my younger self. When I was in college  –  I was scared of sex.  I was completely self-conscious about my body and felt most comfortable having sex when I was drunk.  As I got older I didn’t think I was very good at it and didn’t know where to turn to learn more.

I also didn’t masturbate much and wasn’t in tuned to my own sexual responses.

The rest of the story is on the site at http://www.cherrytv.com/about.php

But Cherry TV isn’t just for women who aren’t comfortable with sex – we hope!  We try to be as inclusive as possible and hope all women who want to learn more about sex and hear fun stories log on.   And we want to hear from you –  what you want, what you like and what you don’t.  Truly, there are so many ways to explore sex, we want to insure our audience is benefiting from our content.

That’s a good first post, I think … I hope.  These things aren’t supposed to be too long I hear.

Oh, one last thing … sometimes my grammar is whacked and I tend to create a ridiculous amount of typos.  I’m crazy careful on the site, but honestly, I just don’t have the time to worry about it too much here.  This blog is already adding to my crazy-arse daily workload, so if I had to worry about grammar, arg.  Okay, that’s my copy disclaimer.