Tending to the Testicles
The women talk about balls as being sensitive in this video, but from what I understand, they are a little hardier than we think. That’s not to say some guys won’t flinch if you suddenly grab one, but they can be played with a little more force than we may be used to. But still … watch those nails!!
Ball play doesn’t only have to occur during blowjobs. Some guys dig it whenever! A tip I learned from “A Guide to Getting It On” is to have your man lie face down on the bed and lightly massage the back part of his scrotum with your fingertips. At times, even venture towards his perineum (aka Taint – the area between the balls and anus). It’s quite a turn on when combined with the sensation of your breasts rubbing his side and back, and your legs and vulva straddling different areas of his lower body. Hot, huh?!?
Another ball play “how to” is to fondle them during sex. There are a number of positions during intercourse where his balls can be reached and played with including doggie style (from between your legs), on top (reach behind) or reverse on top (hello balls!). But if playing with his balls becomes too distracting, stop. Orgasm isn’t easy, and sometimes it takes all our attention to get there. As I am sure he would agree, no need to waste that energy on his balls!
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In the “tending to the testicles” episode Michele notes that the testicles are “a sensitive very sexy spot.” By why is sensitive sexy? Women are mostly attracted to stronger, not weaker men. I think I have the answer.
Ball play is the manifestation of the covenant that a husband gives his life to his wife, committing to laying down his life to protect her. It is the covenant that she will tenderly care for him and his progeny.
My husband is strong and I’m petite, so the normal state is me being vulnerable to him. However, in love making there is the excitement of his giving his body to me: that I literally hold his life in the palm of my hand. “Little me” has the power to take his life, neuter him, or just leave him naked and humiliated, involuntarily clutching his genitals writhing in agony. He literally lays his balls on the line with me.
I rarely have discussed his vulnerability as I hold his balls; we just enjoy playing or the relaxing feeling of holding or rolling them in my hand. As Becky indicated in the “Teeth Use in Oral Sex” episode, there is the unspoken excitement for both of us knowing he is vulnerable if I decided to be naughty. I believe most men enjoy “sweet surrender” to the women they trust after spending all day (and their lives) on guard. The “Sweet Surrender” lyrics at the link below are beautiful.
http://www.metrolyrics.com/sweet-surrender-lyrics-bread.html
The moderator hints at this excitement and amazement with her introduction: “I’m sorry: the balls! They’re not pretty, but they’re sensitive.” It appears from her comment and the discussion the sensitivity she enjoys most is their vulnerability rather than their receptivity to pleasure surpassed by the penis. A woman spends her life feeling a certain amount of vulnerability, but this radically changes as incredible power is suddenly obtained in the marriage bed as her husband lays down his life to her. The powerful man becomes as vulnerable as an infant in her tender care. The amazing feeling is power, equality and oneness as a wife becomes one flesh with her husband during foreplay and intercourse.
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a lonely guy Reply:
December 9th, 2009 at 6:38 am
I am amazed at how insightful these comments are. It’s interesting that a woman’s comment can help me to understand my own feelings as a man so perfectly. I cannot speak for all men, but the idea of my future wife holding my balls securely in her hand is too delightful to describe. Like Snuggle said, a man wants to be manly so he is constantly guarded in his daily life. Nothing would make me happier than to be my wife’s hero, and I would die protecting her when the time comes. I love the idea of being strong for my beloved as her husband and as her lover, but there is something so indescribably wonderful about letting my guard completely down to her - only to her. I want this kind of intimacy more than anything.
I am physically very tall and strong, but I must agree that, as a man, my testicles are my most vulnerable area, and even a petite woman could render me helpless by simply squeezing them in the palm of her hand. I’ve often wondered why my body was designed with such an obvious vulnerablilty, but now I see that it is a blessing in disguise. As Snuggle said, this vulnerability of mine will allow my future wife to have true “power, equality, and oneness” with me in our marriage.
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Mr. Knight Reply:
December 29th, 2010 at 3:11 am
This is good insight into the romance of sex. A wife holding her husband’s testticles is like a queen performing an accolade ceremony with her knight.
http://olde-fashioned.deviantart.com/art/quot-The-Accolade-quot-wallpaper-105556737
The queen raises her knight’s sword, his power, above him as he kneels before her. It symbolizes his willingness to die for his queen and the commitment of his life to queen and country.
Jill, you’re post doesn’t convey the emotions at stake when a man gives his wife his testicles. You don’t seem to understand just how vulnerable it is with your comments about being rougher. Getting scratched by nails is the least concern.
One girlfriend accidentallly squeezed a little when she tried to gently take me all the way into her hand when they were tight against me in “walnut” phase as one woman in the video described. The pain was instantly debilitating and my hands involuntarily flew down.
Another girlfriend, only 5 ft, unintentionally hurt me by tapping. Neither of us knew this would hurt so much. She was sitting up with her back facing me, and I couldn’t breathe to tell her to stop. My hands went down a little bit between each series of taps as my body was paralyzed when her fingers tapped. After a few unbearable seconds my hands involuntaritly went down far enough that she saw she was hurting me.
The pain went away fast in both instances as they were trying to be gently. The thought of having the testicles intentionally squeezed hard is too awful to contemplate.
Based on some of these comments, I think some men channel these emotions in an unhealthy way. A woman wants an emotionally strong man who has a healthy relationship of trust. Women want to admire a strong man that thinks of how his actions thoughout the day demonstrate his love and commitment. Not a man saying “hurt me, hurt me.”
It is understandable why a man would be “ball phobic” in the apparently promiscuous encounters the women in the videos describe.
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I agree with a lot of what I read on this topic. My husband is also a very “manly man” but in bed he enjoys me taking charge and being in control. I too enjoy that and am always in awe that I do hold “all his power in the palm of my hands”.
On a similar note, the most vulnerable thing he ever did for me (which also was connected to this topic somewhat), is when he agreed to have a vasectomy, many years ago. It was nothing I “ever thought he’d do” but he did and it made me even more attracted to him, since I knew he was very uncomfortable having it done. AND, we were both shocked (after the procedure was done) to learn that a close friend of mine had recently changed jobs and turned out to be the nurse assisting with the procedure!!! She often reminds him about how she too “held his life in her hands”!!!
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An interesting point well mentioned since some guys are ball-phobic, it would be a good idea to start off by gently handling his testicles while performing oral sex then gradually take it from there.
As a vulnerable male I enjoy it when a girl gets a little rough with my balls. It arouses me knowing that once a female has established contact with those two sensitive delicate organs she then becomes much more dominate than the strong male and I would be under her complete control, trust and mercy for she now has the powerful incapacitating capability to do whatever she wants or pleases.
Ah, just the feel of a woman’s hand aggressively touching my nuts makes a real-good blow job expirience so much more exciting.
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Just before and when making love, I always hold my boyfriend’s testicles in my fingers and gently squeeze them. Sometimes I squeeze hard and he cries and pleads with me not to castrate him. I enjoy the way he feels so vulnerable at the mercy of my feminine fingers in spite of his strength.
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joeln Reply:
April 1st, 2010 at 8:38 am
Good Girl!
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I think being taken by my balls is about as erotic is as it gets. Not that I want pain, testicle pain is the worst. But being grabbed by the balls once I am turned on makes me melt. I have had several occasions when I was getting head and suddenly was grabbed and I shot off and it was intense. I think all men should experience this. My fantasy is to be taken by a girl half my size.
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J. Schreiber Reply:
August 6th, 2010 at 10:52 am
Jeff barely begins to describe this erotic response. It is literally an unbelievable physical and mental experience that only comes when a women grabs our testicles, as there is an endorphin cascade that turns the pain into a wonderfully “ache” in the testicles felt for days after the event, and provides a throbbing, rock hard erection and mind-blowing ejaculation, if allowed.
It is just one of those wonderful mysteries of life - why a man almost desperately wishes to give his terribly vulnerable masculinity to his mate in trust for the reward of that endorphin rush. I find for me that this “rush” produces a desire to serve my wife with incredible tenderness and sensitivity to her feminine nature, while my wife enjoys the power transfer and that involuntary gulping response that overtakes me as she grabs my testicles as I am weakened to the point of being totally helpless in her hands.
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i like to see my hubby thru his eyes when i grab his nuts in my hand. i think they are pretty small as i can take both in my mouth and i use my tongue in time he moans and i like it too…
rubbing/squeezing them also excites him even while not having sex.
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many if not all of the women that have held my balls and sack have seemed to realize the immense control and effect in their favor that it has. ne woman said “I like it most when i have your balls in the palm of my hand”. Another who was not threatening said “all men should fear a woman because she can cut a man’s sacks off when their sleeping”. It scared the dcap out of but I knew her statement was true.
I think that this conrol by the balls is true and i usedto fear women but i nowaccept this control as a given fact.
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When my wife wants my attempts at lovemaking to come to a close, she french kisses me, tells me “your done,” squeezes my balls and roughly pushes me off her.
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