While a penis can be a source of infinite pleasure, there’s more to it then meets the eye! Here sex expert Dr. Yvonne Fulbright provides a how to guide on finding the hot spots. Log on to receive advice on the best areas to hit to drive your man wild! (4:25)
again, a woman is reducing male sexuality to the cock in his pants. this is SHOCKING!! i talk with my friends about sex, and the things that turn us on, please us etc. and often the penis has absolutely nothing to do with it at first. women who are watching this will get a completely warped view of male sexuality - one more akin with the type of american pornography you see scattered all over the internet. the slightest touch, a kiss on the neck, stroking the thighs, these can all be ultimately more arousing and pleasurable than a squeeze of the dick. use lubricant?? NO WAY! lubricant is a sign of unproductive foreplay and laziness. a man never uses it to masturbate so why use it during foreplay? all the women ive ever known have been able to become wet enough for extremely pleasurable sex. I hope the women who watch this video don't take dr. yvonne's words too seriously. a man's body is as sensitive as a womans. move away from the penis occasionally, dont let it be the unerring focus of your attention!!
Comment by: man 34 11/26/2009 18:49:42
I agree totaly. Girls are so focussed on rubbing your cock that they dont end up really pleasing you that well. I hate the way girls think that we're just this dick and nothing else. They think of us like we're a horse or something, with a sadle ready to be riden.
Comment by: guy 22yrss 11/26/2009 19:06:10
Hey guys, if you took the time to watch any of the other videos you would see that that's not our attitude. We talk about all aspects of sex -- physical, emotional, psychological, technical -- and it's affect on men and women all over the site.
And it's insane to generalize -- many men use lube when masturbating. Your experience is your experience alone. It's quite conceited to think your experience universal.
Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 11/30/2009 10:12:30
What a wonderful, informative site. Each man is different, but there are some consistencies in the areas that are most pleasurable to touch. As a circumsized man, I'm not familiar with the foreskin. For me, the frenulum is deffinitely the area which is most important to orgasm. That is, the soft front quarter or so of my penis' underside. Either gentle or rough contact is deeply pleaurable to me there. However, I agree with the woman in the video that too much stimulation of the frenulum can cause an orgasm much too quickly.
I've heard that prolonged, direct stimulation of the clitoris is uncomfortable to many women, and I wanted to say that, in my case, the upper corona and glans are the same way for me. Intense, isolated stimulation of the top of my glans and corona causes a strong "tensing-up" feeling in my lower guts and makes me feel that I need to urinate. For example, during masturbation, it would be virtually impossible for me to intensely rub this area for more than a few seconds at a time. The feeling is not really pain, but it's incredibly uncomfortable to me.
I've never heard of this kind of glans sensitivity in another man, but I've always been this way. I've been curious about it for a long time. I wonder if I am the only man like this?
Comment by: a lonely guy 12/09/2009 12:27:33
I didn't hear any mention of the sensitivity of the inner foreskin. Mine is very sensitive to stretching when I pull it way back. Aside from orgasm, it is one of the most pleasurable sensations I have during sex or masturbation. When I'm inside her vagina and push enough to stretch it, I get a strong involuntary thrusting motion.
Comment by: njoynlife 01/29/2010 12:31:30
This is for Chickalee, I want to express my appreciation for such a wonderful site. It is so refreshing to see so many videos by ladies discussing all the different aspects of sexual relationships.
I will be 70 years old in a few months and there was no information of this sort available to us when I would have liked to have had it the most. In my era girls didn't masturbate, they didn't give guys oral or hand jobs and they knew nothing about what guys would like to have them do to us. Likewise, guys had no idea about how to please a girl. She was just supposed to be satisfied by the time a guy climaxed inside her and that should be good enough. Our sex education was listening to some other village idiot say what he didn't know anything about.
My wife of 45 years told me she never masturbated and none of her friends did either. They never looked at boys to see what they had in their pants or ever wanted to. I think she was telling the truth because our sex life has been completely me doing her. She does not want to touch my penis and refuses to learn anything about what would feel good to me. If I can get her to touch me, she just yanks on it a few times like milking a cow , and quits. She loves oral as long as she is receiving and refuses to try giving.
So it is really wonderful for me to see the videos on your site and think that the young people of today are learning about something as important and precious as a good sexual relationship.
How lucky the young people are today.
Comment by: njoynlife 01/29/2010 13:45:54
Thank you njoynlife. That's why we're here -- to help women explore, embrace, feel confident about and enjoy sex. It's unfortunate women of past generations -- and even some women -- are given messages that sex is taboo and consists of penis in vagina, he climaxes and it's done. It's great that you go down on your wife! Maybe it's time she got a vibrator too. Once she starts really opening up, maybe she'll be more apt to do things to you. Possibly?!?!?
Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 01/31/2010 17:53:26
When I was a teenager any contact with the corona caused not pain but a profoundly annoying sensation. Now it's not really much good or bad.
When I started reading about sex online and seeing all this stuff about the glans is the most pleasurable part of the penis--some "experts" telling women just suck on that and leave the rest to manual--I thought to myself what do they mean? I realize with more reading I have circumcision to thank for my relatively insensitive glans. It makes me angry that our culture is so callous toward men, and the CDC wants to launch a campaign to revive universal male circumcision as an AIDS measure, in case your boy grows up to be gay or bi--despite evidence that circumcised men in several African countries are MORE AIDS-prone. Women, don't do this to your baby boy. Let him decide for himself if he wants to chop off part of himself when he grows up.
Comment by: conceptualclarity 02/16/2010 13:59:22
I want to defend women in response to the first two posters. I think they are responding to some men wanting penile stimulation from moment one of an encounter because they don't want to "grow" over several minutes of foreplay. They want to be rock hard right away because they feel the burden of expectation of instant , sustained maximum male arousal in bed, like a teenager. So the advice to women is simply know what your individual man prefers.
Comment by: conceptualclarity 02/16/2010 14:13:34
njoynlife, I share your pain! I'm only 40 yo and married 10. Sexually speaking (this discussion IS all about sex), before we married, my "lover" was insatiable, intrigiung, desirable, and we probably did long term damage with only 1 days sleep in three months, walking around permamnently tired.
Now, 10 years later, she's just desirable. I do so absolutely wish that she was as interested and open about it as these ladies are. Or that she even cared what made me tick. It's such a tragedy that I have to resort to watching a movie clip to see the sexual side of god's most wonderful creation.
If the generation of today are all as open to this, they are very lucky indeed.
Comment by: ciry 02/17/2010 17:36:44
In response to lonely guy, I experience a similar effect when the head of my penis is stimulated too much. It's too intense to be comfortable although I wonder what would happen if I had no choice and the stimulation remained. Going through that tunnel might have some super intense benefits but I doubt I could get there voluntarily. Your response is probably normal, I'm guessing.
As far as lubricant, I didn't use any in my younger days, preferring masturbation dry. I do now because I tend to focus on the head more than just stroking the length. I'm not sure whether that's good or bad, but I think a lot has to do with where your head is. If your relaxed and focused on the moment, the feelings are probably more intense. If your distracted, tense, preoccupied, etc., then it probably takes more stimulation to achieve the desired effect. Similar to the clitoris, some women pull back when it's stimulated too much while others require vigorous stimulation t get a response. I met a hooker once who was drop dead gorgeous but she was so tense and angry that she was hard as a rock from muscle tension. She seemed to derive no pleasure at all from our encounter while others in the profession can experience orgasm fairly easily if you know what to do. Everybody is different and each may be different at different times in their lives so it's hard to attach any strict rules about techniques. If he or she likes what your doing, keep doing it. If they don't, then try something else.
Comment by: Bill 07/19/2010 01:26:40
Is there any one to help me? I'm masturbate from thee early of my age before getting adult. Now it takes about a minute to squizee . I never had sex and very much worried about it. Moreover my pen seems not straight, i think it is thin at the root and thick at tip.
What can I do now??
Comment by: Guy23 09/23/2010 05:41:04
Hey Guy23 -- I don't think you will have anything to worry about. Many guys start super early, and can come rather quickly. It may even be an advantage because you'll know yourself super well and once you begin having sense, you'll be able to control it. (try practicing holding it back now though!). As for it not being straight -- a lot of guys don't have straight penises. And, since there's nothing you can do about it, don't worry!!
Comment by: ladybug 10/26/2010 11:51:33
daft statment....
you cant do anything about your cancer so there is no point worrying about it!! duh!!
Comment by: boris 10/31/2010 07:03:28
boris, i'm sorry if you think it's a dumb comment -- but comparing one obsessing over the fact that they may have a small penis to someone suffering a fatal illness, I find repulsive.
Comment by: ladybug 11/01/2010 20:01:56
No- boris is right.
Its impossible not to worry over something so awful.
Just because a situation isnt curable doesnt stop you worrying.
Comment by: dave 11/25/2010 19:26:35
Man haters working groups!
Comment by: MAN HATERS 02/19/2011 15:44:52
That's right Ladybug..."The male most prized possession" and you are trying to water it down, which is in contrast to other penis videos on this website. I would recommend you place all the "penis" video side by side and viewed them. I don't think anyone would understand the website stance. Well other than bashing men with small penis.
Comment by: Thats right 02/27/2011 12:29:46
Your last comment "communicate with your lover" should have been at the top of your list...not a footnote. I have to wholeheartedly agree with "Man 34" (issues of lube aside) and with "guy" that you are reducing the male poulation to a single organ.
To "Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee
11/30/2009 10:12:30" VERY IMPORTANT!!!
while your comments on lube are justified, again, men are reduced to rebutting "We" (woman) when the comments on the very specific topic are very well directed to the article, not the female population.
YES, YES, YES,...woman have been dominated and subjugated for most of human existance.
NO,NO,NO...it does NOT serve humankind to reverse the tables and defensively discount a man's opinions and feelings because of his Y chromosome.
We are on the verge of becoming an enlightented society where matters sexual (and otherwise) are open for thoughtful discourse and personal expression.
PLEASE take a second look at your comments with a kind focus on your partners in realizing a better future for ourselves and our children.
It is embarrassing to me that, as a father, I may have to explain to my daughter why I feel that my comments, as a feminist (YES I am an ardent feminest) are in contrast to the words written by self proclaimed experts.on this site.
The future of our children depends upon honesty, authenticety, and understanding. If people of influence...even those with the best of motivations and no financial incentives (ie, book sales) cannot see past the games we humans can play and choose to seek truth rather than scoring points for our side...well...we are all doomed.
For Emily...may we learn from our mistakes...
Comment by: NPRFan 09/27/2011 08:08:57
XDseriously sweetheart leave your d!ck alone, ok?How do you know it isn't uh .fine the way it is?Just take a step back and focus on the more impoatrnt things in life.You're 14. It doesn't matter too much right now, does it?And in answer to your question I would say no. It probably just ruins the development anyway. Wait till well after because you could be disrupting something impoatrnt. Like if you have a flower that's growing and you keep playing with it, to make it better .it just shrivels and dies do you really want that to happen to your pen!s? xx
11/26/2009 18:49:42
11/26/2009 19:06:10
And it's insane to generalize -- many men use lube when masturbating. Your experience is your experience alone. It's quite conceited to think your experience universal.
11/30/2009 10:12:30
I've heard that prolonged, direct stimulation of the clitoris is uncomfortable to many women, and I wanted to say that, in my case, the upper corona and glans are the same way for me. Intense, isolated stimulation of the top of my glans and corona causes a strong "tensing-up" feeling in my lower guts and makes me feel that I need to urinate. For example, during masturbation, it would be virtually impossible for me to intensely rub this area for more than a few seconds at a time. The feeling is not really pain, but it's incredibly uncomfortable to me.
I've never heard of this kind of glans sensitivity in another man, but I've always been this way. I've been curious about it for a long time. I wonder if I am the only man like this?
12/09/2009 12:27:33
01/29/2010 12:31:30
I will be 70 years old in a few months and there was no information of this sort available to us when I would have liked to have had it the most. In my era girls didn't masturbate, they didn't give guys oral or hand jobs and they knew nothing about what guys would like to have them do to us. Likewise, guys had no idea about how to please a girl. She was just supposed to be satisfied by the time a guy climaxed inside her and that should be good enough. Our sex education was listening to some other village idiot say what he didn't know anything about.
My wife of 45 years told me she never masturbated and none of her friends did either. They never looked at boys to see what they had in their pants or ever wanted to. I think she was telling the truth because our sex life has been completely me doing her. She does not want to touch my penis and refuses to learn anything about what would feel good to me. If I can get her to touch me, she just yanks on it a few times like milking a cow , and quits. She loves oral as long as she is receiving and refuses to try giving.
So it is really wonderful for me to see the videos on your site and think that the young people of today are learning about something as important and precious as a good sexual relationship.
How lucky the young people are today.
01/29/2010 13:45:54
01/31/2010 17:53:26
When I started reading about sex online and seeing all this stuff about the glans is the most pleasurable part of the penis--some "experts" telling women just suck on that and leave the rest to manual--I thought to myself what do they mean? I realize with more reading I have circumcision to thank for my relatively insensitive glans. It makes me angry that our culture is so callous toward men, and the CDC wants to launch a campaign to revive universal male circumcision as an AIDS measure, in case your boy grows up to be gay or bi--despite evidence that circumcised men in several African countries are MORE AIDS-prone. Women, don't do this to your baby boy. Let him decide for himself if he wants to chop off part of himself when he grows up.
02/16/2010 13:59:22
02/16/2010 14:13:34
Now, 10 years later, she's just desirable. I do so absolutely wish that she was as interested and open about it as these ladies are. Or that she even cared what made me tick. It's such a tragedy that I have to resort to watching a movie clip to see the sexual side of god's most wonderful creation.
If the generation of today are all as open to this, they are very lucky indeed.
02/17/2010 17:36:44
As far as lubricant, I didn't use any in my younger days, preferring masturbation dry. I do now because I tend to focus on the head more than just stroking the length. I'm not sure whether that's good or bad, but I think a lot has to do with where your head is. If your relaxed and focused on the moment, the feelings are probably more intense. If your distracted, tense, preoccupied, etc., then it probably takes more stimulation to achieve the desired effect. Similar to the clitoris, some women pull back when it's stimulated too much while others require vigorous stimulation t get a response. I met a hooker once who was drop dead gorgeous but she was so tense and angry that she was hard as a rock from muscle tension. She seemed to derive no pleasure at all from our encounter while others in the profession can experience orgasm fairly easily if you know what to do. Everybody is different and each may be different at different times in their lives so it's hard to attach any strict rules about techniques. If he or she likes what your doing, keep doing it. If they don't, then try something else.
07/19/2010 01:26:40
What can I do now??
09/23/2010 05:41:04
10/26/2010 11:51:33
you cant do anything about your cancer so there is no point worrying about it!! duh!!
10/31/2010 07:03:28
11/01/2010 20:01:56
Its impossible not to worry over something so awful.
Just because a situation isnt curable doesnt stop you worrying.
11/25/2010 19:26:35
02/19/2011 15:44:52
02/27/2011 12:29:46
To "Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee
11/30/2009 10:12:30" VERY IMPORTANT!!!
while your comments on lube are justified, again, men are reduced to rebutting "We" (woman) when the comments on the very specific topic are very well directed to the article, not the female population.
YES, YES, YES,...woman have been dominated and subjugated for most of human existance.
NO,NO,NO...it does NOT serve humankind to reverse the tables and defensively discount a man's opinions and feelings because of his Y chromosome.
We are on the verge of becoming an enlightented society where matters sexual (and otherwise) are open for thoughtful discourse and personal expression.
PLEASE take a second look at your comments with a kind focus on your partners in realizing a better future for ourselves and our children.
It is embarrassing to me that, as a father, I may have to explain to my daughter why I feel that my comments, as a feminist (YES I am an ardent feminest) are in contrast to the words written by self proclaimed experts.on this site.
The future of our children depends upon honesty, authenticety, and understanding. If people of influence...even those with the best of motivations and no financial incentives (ie, book sales) cannot see past the games we humans can play and choose to seek truth rather than scoring points for our side...well...we are all doomed.
For Emily...may we learn from our mistakes...
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