Better Sex Through Self Lovin'

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Better Sex Through Self Lovin'

Masturbation can be beneficial for many reasons. Besides making us feel great, it informs our sexual responses, enabling us to better understand how our bodies react when we are with a partner. Sometimes though our reactions are still a mystery. (3:59)

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Kristy	Celeste	Katie
San	Mo

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	My husband was my first and feel like I am somewhat unexperienced. When my husband and I are having intercourse, I feel like I feel the need to please him first before me. I did read that if your selfish in bed that it becomes better for you and your partner, not sure if thats right.?. I also do feel like the video says I i can;t get myself there its my fault and sometimes i feel bad not letting my husband know that i did not get there. I do not masturbate as often as I did before I met my husband, because I feel that once I'm done I will not be able to get there after a while, is that normal, can someone explain. While we are at it, I feel like I cannot get the right motion, for instance, being on top. Some women like it and me for example i do not feel it and feel like any position I STILL cannot feel it, is that normal?	Comment by: unexperienced 11/05/2010 15:50:12

	Unexperienced, you are TOTALLY normal. Many women worry that their bedroom experience is lacking compared to others, and that they are not normal and/or doing something wrong. That's DEFINITELY not the case. Firstly, the idea of being "selfish" in bed isn't really true -- but, sex is certainly better for a couple there's an on going give and take between pleasure for each. It's not about one or the other, but the couple experiencing stimulation, intimacy, pleasurable sensations and generosity together. When it's simultaneous --great. But often it a back and forth. However, please remember, your satisfaction is as important as his during your sexual session. That said, it's unfortunately that you can't seem to find a position in which you are fulfilled with him inside you. On top, for many women, doesn't do it. Doggie style or missionary with ones feet on his shoulder/clavical does it for some. However, there are men with penises that are smaller than average, and unfortunately aren't able to fulfill a woman through typical intercourse (there are many alternatives, check out categories for more on this situation). As for masturbating -- I would recommend touching yourself during intercourse with your husband. They usually get totally turned on, and it's another way to insure you'll be fulfilled. Granted, it's easier said than done (some guys are insulted), but it might be a great way to begin the dialog that would be helpful about your lack of fulfillment -- and ways to help the situation. Hope this helped! Good luck.	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 11/09/2010 03:11:16

	Chickalee is totally right. Have you considered finding a guy who has a larger penis? Seems like you deserve a decent sex life.	Comment by: Fran 03/27/2011 06:06:50

	Hello Chckalee! Do you care to respond to Fran recommendation? I would love to hear it.	Comment by: Hello 04/08/2011 18:35:18

	If you can't please yourself, then you shouldn't demand someone else too. LAZY and unexperience is NOT an excuse. Fran, your shoe size must be your IQ score.	Comment by: FRAN'S A B 04/23/2011 09:25:08