On our backs with our legs bent and open is a common way to position ourselves while receiving oral sex. But does that work best for everyone? What about moving our hips during or squeezing our knees when we are close to orgasm? Listen to the girls discuss. (3:08)
Wow - i never thought about those other options. I feel so weird and vulnerable while receiving oral. Maybe changing up my legs will help me become more comfortable
Comment by: Twinkie 09/02/2008 01:02:09
wow.
Comment by: wow 12/25/2008 14:42:34
i have never been a fan of oral until very recently. it is a vulnerable, belly up position usually...and my men always had too strong of a touch for me.
this recent experience, i actually explained my history, what i know works for me, all up front. it was our first time together, and he was interested in giving oral. i usually take a long time to come with a new partner...but i came 3 times within the first 30 minutes when he followed my suggestions. do i recommend open communication...if you have a hard time with one facet, talk about it, constructively. it just might work!!
Comment by: orallvr 01/31/2009 15:09:25
i love oral sex sometimes thats all my husband and i do have and he really loves pleasing me ! ! ! he likes it when he lays on his back and has me sitting on his face while he jacks his dick .... being open to each others ideas really are a good thing
Comment by: trish 09/30/2009 15:12:38
Hi i'm 23 years old and married, my housband and I do it almost every day but there is this thing that i just can't get out, we are very open to each other but i keep stuff for my self like he dont know that i masturbate once in a while and when it come to let him know what i like is very dificult specialty when it comes to oral sex because he is very conservative and me too, but i just don't know how to tell him to do this or that cus i think he will feel bad or like he don't know what he is doing. i don't know if somebody understand this situation but is very dficult to me to say what i need to have done to get to the climax, anyways he always try to please me in every other way that even if i don't say anything he always notice when i feel good.
and i think that he do a really good job because i can come more than 4 times every time we have sex. my problem is only with oral sex. sould i just keep going like that i mean don't say anything or what do i do?
can anybody help?
thx
Comment by: CNS?? 10/08/2009 16:43:04
What you and your husband do behind closed doors is only known to the two of you, so being conservative or maybe shy shouldn't hold you back from speaking up about what you like/want. You'll both appreciate the results of good communication!
Comment by: dc213 10/19/2009 00:21:43
I'm a man, and I LOVE performing cunnilingus on a woman. I don't really care for fellatio so much - it can feel really pleasurable of course, but fellatio just doesn't give me the same emotional/psychological wonder that I feel from kissing and massaging with my lips and tongue my lover's beautiful vulva.
My favourite position for cunnilingus is the "69" with me on my back and my lover lying on top. (This is also the most intimate view of a woman I can imagine.) I actually don't need her to do anything with my genitals because I like to devote all my consentration to satisfying her when having this kind of sex, and I want her to relax and enjoy herself as much as possible.
I'm not a sex expert, but there are a few things that seem to be really pleasurable to a woman during cunnilingus that I'd like to share for anyone interested. Be extremely gentle with her genitals - especially to arouse her. Start very slowly and take your time. Don't be predictable: see that you give attention to EVERY part of her vulva - not only her clitoris. Don't think of it as stimulation: adore her with your lips and tongue. Cunnilingus should be a whole-body experience for a woman. While your mouth pleasures her vulva, stroke the rest of her body with your hands. Touch her to "make her feel beautiful". I can't exactly explain this in words, but try to glide your hands and fingers softly and seemlessly along her curves as if she is the most precious object in the whole world. You can probably give her a nice orgasm this way.
I hope this advice helps someone...
Comment by: a lonely guy 12/09/2009 20:39:12
CNS?? -- probably I'm too late responding (dunno if you'll read it), but basically there's 2 steps:
1. Try to lighten up the tone a bit. A lot of times, young people especially will slip into a kind of super-serious, slow-motion sexy mode where nobody says anything. You gotta find a way to gradually break out of that mode. Move towards more of a sly mode where talking happens.
2. Every once in a while ask HIM "is it better like this?" or whatever. If he doesn't get the hint, start with "a little to the left".
Comment by: Sam Spade 01/08/2010 07:28:06
I agree with lonely guy and infact, I love to perform cunnilingus more than flatio. I enjoy performing so much that I don't want my partner to play with my parts until she is done completely. The best position I have experienced is a) while she is sitting on the edge of sofa with cussion on her back and legs on the sofa arms and b) while I ly down and she on 69 position but no playing with my parts........ it is so lovely and so sensational that some time I release my load while she is releasing her........
Comment by: kz 08/30/2010 07:55:52
i also agree with lonel guy. i love to pleasure my girl as much as possible, and suprisingly i found that she cums harder, faster, and multiple times when we do 69...i love to try new things, i'd advise it to everyone, switch up your style once in a blue, it can be a very positive sessio for you and your partner
Comment by: mr niceguy 09/19/2010 01:52:32
I love it when giving head to bring her knees up for better and deeper access. Also when she wraps her legs around my head/ back and pulls me closer.
I always for it to be empowering to peform Cunnilingus on my knees. its a great way to isolate the clitosis while sucking in your mouth. Your female partner is standing up right with or without wall support. the reactions to this method I have seen are outstanding.
Comment by: John 02/22/2011 12:50:07
Best place to learn secrets about cunnilingus positions and many more in a book by Jennifer Dobrowitz "Learn to Lick". She gave me plenty of ideas ...
09/02/2008 01:02:09
12/25/2008 14:42:34
this recent experience, i actually explained my history, what i know works for me, all up front. it was our first time together, and he was interested in giving oral. i usually take a long time to come with a new partner...but i came 3 times within the first 30 minutes when he followed my suggestions. do i recommend open communication...if you have a hard time with one facet, talk about it, constructively. it just might work!!
01/31/2009 15:09:25
09/30/2009 15:12:38
and i think that he do a really good job because i can come more than 4 times every time we have sex. my problem is only with oral sex. sould i just keep going like that i mean don't say anything or what do i do?
can anybody help?
thx
10/08/2009 16:43:04
10/19/2009 00:21:43
My favourite position for cunnilingus is the "69" with me on my back and my lover lying on top. (This is also the most intimate view of a woman I can imagine.) I actually don't need her to do anything with my genitals because I like to devote all my consentration to satisfying her when having this kind of sex, and I want her to relax and enjoy herself as much as possible.
I'm not a sex expert, but there are a few things that seem to be really pleasurable to a woman during cunnilingus that I'd like to share for anyone interested. Be extremely gentle with her genitals - especially to arouse her. Start very slowly and take your time. Don't be predictable: see that you give attention to EVERY part of her vulva - not only her clitoris. Don't think of it as stimulation: adore her with your lips and tongue. Cunnilingus should be a whole-body experience for a woman. While your mouth pleasures her vulva, stroke the rest of her body with your hands. Touch her to "make her feel beautiful". I can't exactly explain this in words, but try to glide your hands and fingers softly and seemlessly along her curves as if she is the most precious object in the whole world. You can probably give her a nice orgasm this way.
I hope this advice helps someone...
12/09/2009 20:39:12
1. Try to lighten up the tone a bit. A lot of times, young people especially will slip into a kind of super-serious, slow-motion sexy mode where nobody says anything. You gotta find a way to gradually break out of that mode. Move towards more of a sly mode where talking happens.
2. Every once in a while ask HIM "is it better like this?" or whatever. If he doesn't get the hint, start with "a little to the left".
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