Help Him Help You Orgasm

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Help Him Help You Orgasm

Every lover is different … and while we know (or are learning) what gets us off, our partner may have no clue. But, with the right attitude, anyone can learn! Follow these tips to help your partner help you along. (4:10)

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Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., M.S.Ed.

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	Was this helpful to anyone? It took me a while to realize I could touch myself during intercourse.	Comment by: Juicy Girl 05/20/2008 23:36:07

	What do you do when your husband think its gross to give and recieve...he thinks his penis should not go in my mouth and going down on me is a no no.?????	Comment by: Tiana 09/23/2008 20:10:31

	Hmm, that's a hard one because attitudes like that are pretty deep seeded and most likely have to do with his feelings about sex in general. Firstly, which you probably have already done, is talk to him about it. Maybe if he can explain to you why he feels that way, you can help him work through it (explaining that there is no "normal" sex, and that if it feels good and both parties consent, it's worth exploring!). If that doesn't work, you may want to suggest visiting a sex therapist together to hopefully work through it. Good luck!	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 09/23/2008 20:51:20

	Re, Tiana and her husband's lack of interest in oral sex either way. As a man, I can't wait to eat my wife as often as possible and, likewise, love having her suck me, too. I even love licking her back side which drives her nuts when I'm touching her vagina. The trick to these things, though, is hygeine. Maybe you could ask him to shower with you or separately before you go to bed and show him just how delicious a nicely showered body can taste! It's worth a shot, no pun intended.	Comment by: MaleFYI 11/19/2008 12:51:54

	My husband does not like it when I play with myself during intercourse. He thinks it takes me too much into myself, and probably takes it personally that he cannot please me fully himself. Unfortunately I cannot have a full orgasm if I do not touch myself, as he just can't seem to get the "touch" just right. I have tried to teach him but he gets excited in the heat of the moment...which usually means too rough touch.	Comment by: whatsagirltodo 01/06/2009 13:59:29

	Hmmm, that's a tough one! Does he know that a majority of women need to stimulate themselves during intercourse to get off? It's true! Most of the Cherry TV women do!! But if he's putting the responsibility on himself to get you off, then it's not fair for him to do it only half way. He clearly "is too into himself" to get you off appropriately. When you self-stimulate, you both get off, correct? And it's still intimate, and loving and close and you share the experience, yes? Maybe if you remind him of all of that, and keep at it, he'll eventually understand that's it's not a matter of how you reach orgasm, it's just important that you get there. Good luck!	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 01/06/2009 23:34:13

	i can only orgasm when we use a toy during sex, but ive always wanted a straight up sex orgasm...could it be that i just cant have one with sex?	Comment by: orgasmwanted! 06/10/2009 17:32:13

	Hi Orgasmwanted! No, you can have one during intercourse, it just may take a lot of practice and trial with you and your partner. The key is to position yourself so that your clitoris is stimulated by his pelvis. In addition, you'll have to be mentally and emotionally in a place where you can climax -- not worrying about anything really, just relaxing and enjoying the moment. Many women self-stimulate during intercourse -- either with their hand or vibrator. It may be a great place for you to start. Good luck!	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 06/11/2009 00:33:36

	why will my masterbate with her vibrator and not admit that she does.	Comment by: james 07/20/2009 15:32:39

	I LOVE IT when my lover touches herself while I am inside her, or even when I am not. I LOVE the taste of her, too!!! Everything about a woman and her sexuality is beautiful!!!	Comment by: JohnnyE 07/25/2009 00:39:28

	I just recently got married and was a virgin. It was the worst pain I've ever felt and took more than a few times for it to stop hurting and/or feel uncomfortable. I need help and some good advice. My husband is feeling really bad and frustrated because he can't get me off during sex and I don't want to play with myself during for right now to get off. Are there any positions that will help or anything I can do to help him help me get off?	Comment by: New2this 12/02/2009 13:59:36

	Hi New2this, Firstly, do you masturbate -- not during sex, but on your own. If not, you should because if you don't know how to get yourself off, he certainly won't be able to. We have a great blog entry on it here: http://www.cherrytv.com/blog/f … turbation/, and plenty of videos on masturbation. If you do masturbate, than yes, there are positions that can help. At the top of the screen under "brows clips by category" we have videos on Orgasm and Positions that detail ways women climax during sex. Good luck!	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 12/02/2009 18:36:13

	hi ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years! we have been active for 2. but i have never had an orgasm:( HELP!!!	Comment by: iwant1too 12/07/2009 01:27:04

	Please search under the "browse by catalog" at the upper right of the page under masturbation and orgasm for advice.	Comment by: ladybug 12/07/2009 15:13:39