Help With Bad Sex - Cherry Dish

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Help With Bad Sex

Help with bad sex whether it is because of inexperience, incompatibility, or ineptitude. It's never fun. What to do? Here the women provide advice on dealing with bad sex and give guidance on how to handle awkward sexual situations (2:43)

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Jill J.	Samantha	Celeste
Katie	Sandy

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	I have one! I met this handsome 6 footer. Lets just say he wasn't so large in other areas...... I mean what on earth do you do in that situation? I tried my best but the sex was awful and it was obvious why. Talk about uncomfortable silences!	Comment by: Chelsea 01/04/2010 02:22:50

	Dear Chelsea - Size can be too big, too, but either too big or small, it is the attitude and the process of sexual stimulation and caring about each other that ends up being the factor that matters most. Great sex with a tiny penis is still great sex. A poor guy with a massive dick has a major problem getting it inside without hurting her. so do learn to give and ask for what matters most, caring attitude.	Comment by: C-A 03/03/2010 21:51:02

	Hi C-A, Wow a reply! I thought this thread had died. I totally agree with you for most of the time, but there are limits!! How can you have good sex if its tiny? It doesnt matter how good the moves are if you cant feel the moves! It wouldnt even stay in... It was like a white board marker, but I was polite to him. I'm just being factual. I agree with the huge guy comment although they seem not to upset by it! Mosy guys are fine though and yeah, a nice caring attitude goes a long way.	Comment by: Chelsea 03/15/2010 19:47:05

	Unfortunately, for most women, you are right Chelsea. Intercourse with a penis you can barely feel isn't very satisfying. However, there are other things that he can insert (toys) and practices he can master. For guys with small penises, other techniques are hopefully priority.	Comment by: ladybug 03/22/2010 20:56:41

	Trust me on this. Any guy who has to resort to using toys cos his junk is inadequate is probably the unhappiest guy alive. And thats before you even consider the girls feelings.	Comment by: hank 03/31/2010 08:42:46

	hank -- it's too bad that many people have that attitude. Sex is a lot more than intercourse, and couples can have an AMAZING sex life without a large penis being part of the equation.	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 10/26/2010 12:12:45

	I met this great man- but!.. his penis size is not much bigger than a marker and takes effort to get hard too which is a turnoff for me, and he also loses his erection easy when its obvious he is not pleasing me, but he has no rythm - he cannot dance either - ive tried to lead him to feel rythm and learn to move his hips and to slowly more rythmically move during sex but he just doesnt get it. His past 4 yr relationship never gave her orgasm and he is now 38...is there any hope and how, where do I lead him to get help to understand the sensual, rythmical side to sex, as I want to marry this guy but he is so defensive and inexperienced and just doesnt get what ive tried to show and teach for some insane reason i dont know what else to do..what am i missing here...ive never encountered such ineptitude before- and ive had lots of encounters - and yet I love him.. we are engaged to be married...please help..im 41 and he is 38	Comment by: Lizzy 11/04/2010 19:18:19

	I met this great woman, but... her vagina was too loose for my seven inch. It felt like I could put my entire arm in it, which was a turnoff for me when its obvious she is not pleasing me, plus she has no rhythm. Might be contributed to her lack of dance ablility. I have tried different position and to lead her to feel the rhythm move, but she can not find it. Her past four year relationship is similiar to our current situation...is ther any hope and how, where do I lead her to get help to sex. What to do?	Comment by: leroy 11/14/2010 00:50:01

	Oh, only the guys are responsible for bad sex. I would have thought that these women would offer advice from both points-of-views. Because just as easy as a man can be bad in bed, so can a woman. It is unfortunately, that it was only the men fault, and is evident from the comments listed above. I have had bad sex experience, but I always look forward to round two to improve, regardless of who had the lackluster performance (because it can be either party). Sex is suppose to be fun, and the beauty of it. Its suppose to be fun improving your skills. Nowaday, we just humilate the opposite sex without any remorse or respect.	Comment by: tj 11/14/2010 01:23:08

	Leroy, I don't know what to tell you. Sorry. Some people just aren't compatible. Though lead her is good, and explaining what you are doing may help.	Comment by: ladybug 11/17/2010 11:36:17

	TJ -- as I've mentioned before, men's pov is rampant within mainstream society. This is a place for WOMEN to know that they are not alone, that whatever they've experience others have, and it's not always their fault when sex isn't good -- and communication is key.	Comment by: ladybug 11/17/2010 11:39:30

	Yes, both pov is great. Because if oneside believe that it is always the otherside. Then what have we learn? I agree and like that the website discuss that women are not alone or not always their fault. But without bothside "honesty" then what's to be gain. POV can be interpret as the truth and nothing but the truth. P.s women pov is rampant withing mainstream society as well. Yes, men's (MOST) has a long history in treatment of women, but we are not in the 1960's or 1970's. Women liberation has come a long way and a long way to go. I'm just curious to see if the male (past) behavior is adopted or illustrate how we (Most men) should have acted.	Comment by: TJ 11/17/2010 22:53:03

	- P.s. effective communication entail active listening as well. To include all pov's male chauvnist probably arise for a onside debate that the other did not matter. From my preception that is what i am hearing from some on these panelist.	Comment by: TJ 11/18/2010 13:43:21

	I guess it's a good thing we have the comment section so viewers can express their thoughts ...	Comment by: ladybug 11/30/2010 21:09:33

	Lizzy, You and your man should try to spice things up with toys and bedroom bondage. He wants to give you the satisfaction that he knows you need, but you will have to train him as to how.	Comment by: Dom 01/12/2011 22:14:01

	Many women are bad at sex, because they just lay there motionless. Who wants that?	Comment by: Many women 02/19/2011 15:42:37

	My first boyfriend was bad at sex. He was small and he was poor at oral. So glad I didn't marry him. I now know what I would have been missing out on. I also don't think these things can be taught. Either guys can kiss or they cannot. Its the same with oral and dancing. I have tried in vain to train guys, it don't work	Comment by: Tanya 03/26/2011 21:09:11

	Are you saying all women train guys in sex? It might be true since women do not do anything during sex. The guy has to get erection, do all the pumping....while women lay there eating twinkes.	Comment by: what 04/05/2011 22:16:14

	I guess it's a good thing we have the comment section so viewers can express their thoughts ... I appreciate your arrogance.	Comment by: thank you 04/05/2011 22:21:43

	I have been dating a guy for 1 whole year. It seems like a ot to me only because my relationships are on and off. My boyfriend and I have a wonderful sex life. He is great at kissing and touching and sating all the right things. My modo is "What goes around comes around" If you give great sex you get great sex. So waht if his penis is small. (I don't have this problem) It doesn't matter about size, it matters about how you feel about each other. If you love him adn he loves you it should be about having each other to "make love" to. If you dont love the person you can't make love. That is all that really matters.	Comment by: Lovely Bones 04/20/2011 02:12:15

	Lovely Bones, the women of Cherry Tv will consider you their enemy. Because you spoke what's good for you. Love making is a two-way street...Most women just lay there and then say sex was bad. "If you give great sex you get great sex" So simple, but so hard for many to understand.	Comment by: thank you 04/21/2011 21:13:09

	When sex is bad, whose to blame? I say the person who mentioned it, lack technique. I love how women sit there and rate the guys performance. My question is, what the hell were you doing? This is how I challenge women...I make them get on top and I lay there. I their movement is the right technique...I can maintain an erection without me moving. If not, they know who needs to work on their performance. TOO many women are saying how bad men are in bed. To me, its like a sport...a good team mate will make a weaker player look good or contribute to the team. SO, if your man or woman can't screw...some of the problem rest with you as well. Its take two or more to tango.	Comment by: bad sex 08/28/2011 23:14:32

	DUNNO WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME, DON"T GET WET ENOUGH AFTER STIMULATION, DON"T FEEL ANY SENSATIONS WHEN MY VULVA IS TOUCHED N I DON"T ENJOY SEX. HELP	Comment by: CYN 09/05/2011 15:46:39

	If you cannot bring yourself to an orgasm, then you are the reason for bad sex. Don't hate men for knowing their body. Only two women in my life time has made me orgasm without me thrusting. They insisted on it, and proved they could they throw down. Something about a woman who can squeeze your penis with their vagina. MOST women cannot accomplish this....so SAD!	Comment by: Vagina Control 11/15/2011 21:51:49

	How can bad sex be tied to one of two parties? Another example of women not taking ownership of the part of the equation.	Comment by: BS 03/03/2012 15:09:48

	look at them..no wonder	Comment by: asz 04/06/2012 17:02:41

	Please how can i improve my sex life because i have premature ejaculation all the time?	Comment by: Bongo 05/24/2012 07:23:35