Learning To Masturbate

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Learning To Masturbate

Unlike men, women begin masturbating to orgasm at a variety of ages -- anywhere from 10 to 80! Because of a number of reasons, the mind and body arousal connection in women is sometimes unclear. Here the women talk about discovering that connection. (5:05)

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Kristy	Celeste	Katie
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	I tried with a dildo for years and thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn't get off!	Comment by: ladybug 01/05/2009 00:55:11

	wow	Comment by: wills 01/05/2009 17:33:56

	I think what also should be mentioned is that different kinds of vibrators work for different people. Some swear by the "rabbit style" but it does nothing for me. Its clunky and awkward and leaves me with no feeling. For just a good quick orgasm on my clit I use what's called a Ladyfinger. But the ultimate vibrator I've found is called the Clitoral Hummer. Its got this nub that's fantastic for clit stimulation and has very powerful vibrations. But I had a huge discovery with it. I could just insert the very tip into my vagina (with the nub facing up), not touch myself, just move my hips around and I can cum so hard. I'm absolutely addicted to masturbating that way now. I'm planning on getting another one to use on my clit at the same time and see what happens! On a side note, if you're going to try a dildo with no vibrations I'd suggest a glass one. They feel silky smooth even without lube, are very hard, and have a nice weight to them.	Comment by: Honeypot Explosion 01/06/2009 12:20:30

	I actually LOVE to go down on my wife. I love the taste, everything about it. I love to do it in the light because just looking at it drives me wild. Does that make me a pervert?	Comment by: Dannydrumstix 01/17/2009 13:51:13

	I try to masterbate, but i cant have an orgasm. i finger myself alot and i would love to have a viabrating dildo. im 11 years old. can anybody help me?	Comment by: jellydonut85 01/18/2009 10:46:48

	I'm only 15 and I really want to try a vibrator. Do you have to be a certain age to buy a sex toy? Are there any awesome vibrating alternatives I can use?	Comment by: hannah 07/04/2009 21:09:56

	Hi, I'm 21, never tried masturbation. I've been indulging in the non-penetrative sex with my partner. Just y'day, while we were doing so, I felt a sensation, deep down, which my partner told could have been something on my way to orgasm. I really wanna feel more of it myself first. Could you tell me what're the ways in which I can come? Thanks.	Comment by: nicks 07/14/2009 00:56:21

	Hey Nicks, The reason why you probably felt this sensation was because of clitoral stimulation from the rubbing and friction. So, to feel this on your own, touch your clit, rubbing it with different pressures and in different directions. Try to build tension in your muscles while still breathing deeply and regularly. (This can be a difficult balance for many women!) For more variations and tips, check out our other episodes on masturbation and sex toys... There are some good pointers for masturbation, including how to find your own g-spot, in the blog, as well. Hope this helps!	Comment by: LittleCherry! 07/20/2009 15:44:39

	I'm 17, I just started masturbating within the last few months, and I was feeling really bad about it because I was unable to get myself to orgasm. I'm relieved to know that I'm not the only one who has a hard time getting there using just their fingers. I've never used a vibrator, I'll certainly try it! What that one lady said about masturbating in the sunshine sounds so nice, I think I'll try that too. Lol.	Comment by: Akii 11/12/2009 01:49:57

	Hey I'm 13 years old and I am very interested in sex but I don't plan on doing it so I want to try masturbation. People say that it hurts and people said it can mess up your "thing" so how are some ways I can do it. I've been searching for a video on it for years untill I saw cherrytv so if one of you can help me out. I also feel like a freak when I try it because my friends find it bad for you. I know for sure it doesn't hurt because I watched a few porn videos but none of them help me out on how too.	Comment by: Curiousiam 11/17/2009 17:03:27

	Curiousiam, we have many videos on masturbation. Just click the "search by category" option at the upper left of the page, and select masturbation. They will all come up. Also, check out this blog post for help. http://www.cherrytv.com/blog/f … turbation/ Good luck!!!	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 11/18/2009 12:41:24

	I'm 16 and I just started masturbating a couple months ago. I wasn't really sure what to do, so I looked up techniques and found one where you don't need to buy a toy or use your fingers. You get in the shower and turn on the water so it's warm (NOT HOT!!! that would burn!) then put your shower head on the massage setting (the one where it's 3 jets of water). Then you spread your legs (you can stand or kneel. I prefer kneeling) and hold the shower head to your clit. This makes me orgasm within a couple minutes (when I'm relaxed and just enjoying). I also find that holding the water till I almost orgasm, then moving it away for about 30 seconds and then putting the water back makes my orgasms stronger. Hope you enjoy :)	Comment by: iWantCandy 11/22/2009 01:50:12

	That's so nice - Masturbating naked in the sun. I'm going to do that. I have only really had clit orgasms and i find breathing, pausing useful. And for me its all about my body and turning inward, feeling everything. It can be meditation for me, because I treat it the same way.	Comment by: m 12/21/2009 07:38:03

	Hi I'm 15 and I want to have sex soooooooo bad but I'm not gonna so I try to masterbate I use the shower and that works but I can't buy toys I tried to use a brush but it didn't go in so is there something wrong?	Comment by: Sui 03/22/2010 16:54:57

	Sui, nothing is wrong. You most likely can't insert the brush (non-brush side I presume) because you are not fully turned on. Try touching yourself all over and fantasizing. Stroke your clitoris, and other parts of your vulva. Then try. You can also add some spit to your fingers and insert your fingers.	Comment by: ladybug 03/22/2010 20:45:11

	I do masturbate and love it but a little worried that i think masturbation is not a health activity. i am a male..........	Comment by: Uzman 04/01/2010 01:41:03

	i found out the sensation of masturbation through the jet of my shower and have gotten lovely orgasms i'm lovin it..............	Comment by: wet@wild 04/04/2010 23:40:04

	Yeah! It's a good one that shower head!	Comment by: ladybug 04/05/2010 06:50:25

	I love masturbating, I just lie on a bed, open my legs widely, play or massage my clit, when I feel orgasm I insert my two middle finger ......ohoooooooo	Comment by: isabella 05/18/2010 09:00:25

	When I am @ home & feeling horny...I go to the refrigeration pull out a Cucumber of Carrot, clean it.... lie on my couch....and insert it my pu....ssy. That can be relieving.	Comment by: lonelly housewife 05/18/2010 09:06:10

	I'm 21, and I have been sexually active for about 4 or 5 years now. I was getting fairly frustrated with never being able to orgasm. I tried vibrators, self stimulation, partners, though masturbation was never something I was super comfortable with. But this last few months I just kept trying to relax about it, explore, have fun. Then tonight I took a friend's advice and used the spout to my tub. HALALUYA! Finally I have had an orgasm! It was small and short but it was so reliving! I laughed and had a couple tears. I was so excited. I did it. I just wanted to share... : )	Comment by: SuperGirl 05/20/2010 01:37:12

	Thanks SuperGirl! We're thrilled you were able to get off that way!	Comment by: Cherry TV Chickalee 05/20/2010 09:30:59

	If you have an actual bathtub as part of your shower, you can run the bathwater so it's warm (obviously don't burn yourself lol), lay on your back and scoot until your vaj is right under the water. You can put your legs up against the wall, and do whatever moving around you wanna do. It gives me more intense orgasms than anything else I've ever done!! And it works really fast so if you want to, you can stop the water with your hands right before you orgasm, wait like 30 seconds, then move your hands out of the way again. It makes the actual orgasm much stronger, and it lasts longer :)	Comment by: Skittles 05/23/2010 23:34:49

	I'm 14 years old, and I have never done anything, And I cannot find a video, to actually "Show" how to do it, I really need some help.	Comment by: Briana 05/28/2010 16:49:34

	Briana, you don't really have to worry about how to "do it", because outside of the basic penis in vagina, and moving your hips, you simply need to focus on the physical sensations -- what feels good to you and what type of actions your man seems to respond to. Masturbating helps because it puts us in touch with our clitoris, -- identifying the pressure and movements that feel pleasurable to us when stimulated. However, the more you are able to relax and focus on feeling during sex, and not worry about being "good,", the better you will be. Yet, if you're concerned about positions and such, check out this site. I find it has some helpful visuals: http://www.sexinfo101.com/sp_index.shtml	Comment by: ladybug 06/06/2010 17:04:30

	When I was 11, I noticed that something felt good between my legs when I rode my bike. I told my mom. She explained what was happening. She also told me that she rubbed herself when my dad was on business trips. She showed me how to do it. My favorite is playing with and pinching my nipples, then pulling my inner lips apart to uncover my clit. Running my finger in and out of my wet vagina and making circles around my swollen clit gets me off best.	Comment by: Denverone 11/16/2010 22:06:26

	I am going to try it. I touch my vagina and rub some but have not come to a climax. I wonder how long I should do it?	Comment by: Deana 03/22/2011 12:33:16

	I love to masturbate and now don't feel guilty about it. I masturbate bly rubbing on a bed up and down. I pi	Comment by: pizza 06/25/2011 15:58:25

	I'm 16 and sexually active and well my friends tell me that they have been told they smell like fish why is that and how can I stop that ordor or is normal to have a odor down there	Comment by: Lake 07/09/2011 00:32:12

	i started masturbating when i was late 9 years old...at the time i didnt know what i was doing. and i didnt have a laptop then so i was doing it just with imagination, but now ive got my laptop it seems my imagination has dulled and i cant do it without porn...can anyone suggest away to pack away the porn and get back to my mind? thanks! x	Comment by: BloomerLove 08/01/2011 19:17:41

	I started masterbating when I was about 9 years old, I'm 17 now so I've been doing it for awhile now, but I still can't get pleasure from fingering myself. I don't know if I'm not doing it right or if it's just my body that won't respond the way I want it to. Can anyone help me with this problem?	Comment by: Rose 08/06/2011 04:20:06

	I'm 13 years old and I masturbate every night on bed with my legs spread open and fingering myself. It is very pleasurable! I've been masturbating since I was 12 and I REALLY want a vibrator! Does anyone know where I can get one? And I can never masturbate without watching porn.	Comment by: Jessrose5377 12/04/2011 23:07:54

	hey im 15...and... i havnt realy been masterbatin but now i think i need to. my boy friend and i hav been together since i was 12 going to 13... we hav had many problems in our relationship (wit parents and so) and wen i turned 14 my bf n i got in some trouble since hes a teacher and im a student (weird i knw lol)(hes 8 years older than me by d way...n hes a virgin too) ... he spoke to mom n dad n now they finally agreed to our relationship... and his parents too... we havnt been sexually active in this relationship because wen i was 12 to 13 we jus wanted to knw each other more...but now we get to go on a few dates n so wit my parents concent...and... lately we've been noticin that we get turned on wit jus a kiss or two...and when he kisses my neck...he says thats my weak spot lol. we cant help ourselves anymore...i reallllllllllllllllllly wanna hav sex with him and he wants to hav sex with me too...i oraled him a few times to giv pleasure...but...we think that is wrong... our parents trusts us...and he comes from a religious family...so we dont wana hav sex bfore marriage... he has his way of masterbatin... but i dont:(... n when i get turned on i wana knw ways of gettin pleasure... i checked but i dont lyk the fingerin idea... can u help me with other ways plz... o n il b grateful if its a bed idea cuz the bath idea wont work cuz he texts me most tyms when he masterbates n i wana do the same... plz help	Comment by: lover_gurl 04/10/2012 01:23:24

	Lover gurl I am 12 and I do the firgirng but I have heard that a hair brush helps and it is not as bad as u think I thought it was gross till I tried it. And it is awesome	Comment by: Girrlygirl 123 07/19/2012 22:42:36

	Hi, im 12 and I have been masturbating since I was about 9. I've been fingering myself and going under the tub. But after I feel a little guilty and I'm just wondering... Is it normal? I only have one friend I know who does it. Plz help!	Comment by: curlygirly99 10/23/2012 19:35:06

	Girl i masterbate a lot and i can tell u what i cqnt wait to have sex im 12 years old and i masterbate every day	Comment by: izzy 02/07/2013 00:19:48