Cunnilingus is a progression and most women don’t respond to direct stimulation of the clitoris at the start. In this episode the panel discusses methods in which they like their "love button" handled before they are fully heated up. (3:09)
i dont know if i am the only chick that does no enjoy receiving oral. i mean my boyfriend insists that i should let him do it again. but lets face it he really isnt good, and he believes he is a god at it. also i dont like having him down on my hot mess. i mean thats too much for me.
Comment by: not wanting a face by my hot mess. 07/31/2008 23:44:44
I think a lot of women feel that way. I'm sure your bf wouldn't mind if you gave him some direction when he is down there (whether while its going on or at another time) -- but of course you need to feel comfortable doing that. He might think he's really good at it because what he's doing worked on another women -- but we're all different. He might not understand that (or, the other women may have faked it). And I bet he thinks it's anything but a "hot mess". Men often love the smell and taste of a woman ... especially if they are way into you! Your vulva is a beautiful thing, but if you're not comfortable with oral sex right now, that's perfectly normal.
Comment by: ladybug 08/01/2008 11:16:25
hey Sandy is dead in again it the person starts oral by just cupping with a warm mouth and not much tongue.. just the warmth can make a preson sooo turned on then you can work up to pentration
Comment by: MarCar 09/29/2008 12:18:16
Ladies - if your man is interested in going down on you he is not put off about anything your vagina has to offer. Guide him if need be - I don't know a single man that would not appreciate a little guidance to help you get off. I personally love the sight, smell, taste and feel on my face/mouth of my wife - it turns me on to know that I can get her off so resoundingly. What better combination for the both of us - she gets a great orgasm and I get turned on by both knowing I can do that for her and loving all the sensations that go along with cunnilingus. Find out what he likes in the way of intimate grooming (trimmed, shaved, natural, etc.) and if you're in to it, offer it up - he'll love it. And so will you.
Comment by: Mike 01/21/2009 18:38:14
I like to eat the puss. I have made every women I've been with have an orgasm with my tongue.
Comment by: Clit Licker 02/15/2009 06:16:47
My boyfriend has this wonderful technique of running his tongue around the outside of my labia major and sucking gently on my labia major. It drives me wild. He then will nibble in my labia minor before he sucks them. My clitoris if the last contact. Often he will start his tongue at my anus ans lowly split my lips and so softly touck my clitoris and pass over the top and kiss my mounds. He knows just the pressure and frequency. However when I cum, I grab his head and hold him as tightly as I can over my pussy as i explode and my body contracts and convulses. then I suddenly have to push his face away before i die.
Comment by: Mary the MD 02/20/2009 02:05:29
ive never licked out a girl and i was just wondering like ow to start and all that ...like wen your making out do u slide your hand up ect...and what does it taste like ....and how long should she last (on average)
Comment by: 4inch_ollie 06/05/2009 04:04:43
Yes, communication is vital, if it is not pleasant, then you must tell your guy what to try and not to try.
very slow and steady, she is very sensitive down there and you do not rush into things.
keep you fingers out of her vagina unless you are super clean and trim nails.
my wife got so relaxed and excited she ejaculated!
she had no idea she could do that.
not all guys will do oral on a woman, too bad for them, they are missing out on a very special experience.
Read The Hite Report on Female Sexuality,
best book I ever read when I was teenager.
Comment by: Oh, James! 01/12/2010 23:50:03
I would just like to say that at 47 I am so excited to discover women of all ages talking about orgasm. After 27 years of married frustraion i take resposibility for my husband not knowing or caring what can give me multiple orgasms. I have for years had to on the quiet fulfill myself because of his uneducatedness ( for a better word) my faulty really although I did try early on to be very experimental. he only wants what he wants and perhaps that isn't fair to say either I love him very much. So I very much enjoy your open discussions and sharing......wah hoo!! so lovely!! you go girls!!!
Comment by: qualooka 02/21/2010 02:41:21
It took me three years to work out how to give my mrs an orgasm. It took her four years to work out that she liked me going down on her. Personally, I don't like the smell or taste down there, but I love the sounds she makes and the fact that I can give her pleasure back.
Comment by: dumdasshusband 05/25/2010 11:28:56
Girlfriends, wifes, and other ladys, i think that we dont really like the smell ot taste or anything else, when going down on you... what we acctualy like is that if you cum or only get weter, we feel good too, not because we feel like great lovers or something, but because we know that you enjoyed it... we love to make you pleased... that's what really turns me on... when i make my gf feel nice, she gets more relaxed, and enjoys having sex more than ussual... and if she feels great, i feel happy for her... hope you understand what i wanna say... sorry if my english sucks...
Comment by: nick 08/23/2010 03:50:03
Some men don't like the smell or taste at first, but come to enjoy them, while others, myself included, loved them from the beginning. But, ladies, remember that any guy down there is getting a rare treat, and should be appreciative and thankful. If they aren't doing exactly what you enjoy, direct them. And if they don't please you, perhaps you could refuse fellatio or even intercourse until they learn what makes your muscles spasm and your body shake with delight!
Comment by: remaking 03/30/2011 08:31:22
Well I enjoy the taste of a woman, the smell of a women, and the feel of a women all over. When I give her my mouth down there and she is ready to explode. I exaggerate my movements and use my tongue and chin up and down on and in her vagina while she is grinding on my face with pleasure. She loves my chin running forward and backwards in vagina her while my tongue flickers on her clitoris. When she is totally done. I stop just at the right time and lay my head just above her pubic bone and gentle caress her with my hands on her butt for a minute or two. Then I mount her and give her very very slow careful exact thrusts in and out till I blast my load and hold her gently for awhile. Then give her a back message. Yikes now I want it.
Comment by: alwayspleasing 04/14/2011 22:40:44
when i read thr the last column i feel so high. lf my man can follow it l sure enjoy to touch the sky. sorry my engish is poor but learnihg on it
Comment by: angela 10/18/2011 21:33:22
I've been seeing my boyfriend for over a year now, every few months I bring up receiving oral sex. And while if I do ask for it during foreplay he tries but is so rough and he constantly stops and starts which totally disrupts me completely. (By the way, I don't like asking for it.) I've given him advice, I've told him exactly what I like and how often I'd like to receive oral, but I feel as though he doesn't listen because he continues to do the same thing. Sometimes he even gets upset when I give him advice. I've tried talking to him in a more sensitive way but like I said he doesn't take my advice. We've talked about it over and over again. And I've read tons of articles and "how to's" He says he wants to but does not like the taste. And it really shows when he's down there. (Which I might add has only been about 3-4 times nothing lasting more than a few min. I need 20 sometimes 30.) I'm used to men loving my vagina, and loving going down and it makes me feel so loved, sexy, and emotionally close. It's gotten to the point where I'm uncomfortable with myself and even if he tries I'm in such a metal state of low self-esteem and guilt from all the pressuring there is no way I'd ever orgasm. I want to move forward, and resolve this issue but I feel distant from him now and have lost hope.
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06/05/2009 04:04:43
very slow and steady, she is very sensitive down there and you do not rush into things.
keep you fingers out of her vagina unless you are super clean and trim nails.
my wife got so relaxed and excited she ejaculated!
she had no idea she could do that.
not all guys will do oral on a woman, too bad for them, they are missing out on a very special experience.
Read The Hite Report on Female Sexuality,
best book I ever read when I was teenager.
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