Most long-term relationships go through periods of less sex. If the lack of interest is mutual, it’s a lot easier to deal with than when one partner wants it more often than the other. Sometimes it’s him ... sometimes it’s us. How to deal? Listen in. (6:20)
What do you do when he doesn't want to have sex with you...but he does want to watch porn and masturbate regularly, or seeks interactions with another woman. I masturbate too, but I would rather be having sex with him. Am I still supposed to not take that personally?
Comment by: theKnight 12/29/2009 21:55:36
To theKnight,
It's none of my business, but if I may give you my opinion respectfully: It sounds like your man has deep commitment issues with you. There are many reasons why a man might temporarily lose interest in his lover, but I don't think that watching porn or seeking encounters with other women is ever an acceptable way to treat a woman. If you're not married, you should leave this fellow at once.
If you are married, it's more complicated. Tell him that you want to share a deep, intimate relationship with him (like you used to) and that his infidelity with pornography and other women is unacceptable and breaks your heart. It might sound like a hopeless solution; but if you're respectful to him, he may yet fall in love with you again (and you can save your marriage). If women only knew the enormous effect that their respect has upon a man's emotions...
Anyway, Knight, I wish you the very best. Be strong, and don't give up!
Comment by: a lonely guy 01/07/2010 01:09:36
Thank you
Comment by: hassan 10/05/2010 15:48:14
Very insightful ladies. As a 50+ year old married man my friends and I have observed (and complained) that our wives do not want sex nearly as much as we do. As is always the case partner who wants less is in control of the situation. Could you maybe do something regarding the sexuality of mature women.
Big Fan
11/09/2009 23:33:08
12/04/2009 02:37:17
12/29/2009 21:55:36
It's none of my business, but if I may give you my opinion respectfully: It sounds like your man has deep commitment issues with you. There are many reasons why a man might temporarily lose interest in his lover, but I don't think that watching porn or seeking encounters with other women is ever an acceptable way to treat a woman. If you're not married, you should leave this fellow at once.
If you are married, it's more complicated. Tell him that you want to share a deep, intimate relationship with him (like you used to) and that his infidelity with pornography and other women is unacceptable and breaks your heart. It might sound like a hopeless solution; but if you're respectful to him, he may yet fall in love with you again (and you can save your marriage). If women only knew the enormous effect that their respect has upon a man's emotions...
Anyway, Knight, I wish you the very best. Be strong, and don't give up!
01/07/2010 01:09:36
10/05/2010 15:48:14
Big Fan
07/06/2011 16:47:03