Size and Rhythm During Sex

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Size and Rhythm During Sex

What’s sex like when we’re taller than the man? And what about the guy who is extremely well endowed ... is that always a good thing? The women discuss size ... then the talk turns to participation and if it’s ever okay to be inactive during sex. (4:32)

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Jillian	Stephanie	Callie
Katie	Safiya

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	Wow you girls certainly hate the small guy!!! (and the larger one for that matter). I suppose the average guy should be happy then? Super tough luck if you are not average. How do Callie and Safiya etc avoid small dicks then? Is it a confidence thing?	Comment by: talia 09/24/2009 13:02:11

	You guessed right. Confidence is the tell tale sign. Also someone who is relaxed and casual- they are at ease with themselves and their body. So they will be ok in that dept. Of course there is simply feeling each other up whilst dancing etc . Then if its not up to catch then make your excuses.	Comment by: Jessinlove 10/08/2009 08:21:48

	Lol. My advice is go for skinny guys with no muscles. I know it's illogical but they tend to have whoppers. It's true!	Comment by: Tanya 10/18/2009 05:01:57

	Like most men I pretty much knew size mattered but wow- you dont pull your punches ladies do you? I am so releieved I am comparitevely well off down there.... phew...	Comment by: BarryBonsman 12/08/2009 12:50:23

	I think size is always going to matter to a degree. Bigger will always mean more sensation which is a good thing. (Unless its like 10 inches!- ouch!). I guess if hes only average he can compensate with oral etc but its a shame to miss out on that incredible filled sensation. Alas dildos dont feel the same at all. Rhythm is about communiaction. Sometimes I like it fast and deep, other times slow and shallow or other combinations. x	Comment by: Shanti 12/20/2009 06:52:52

	Well, I haven't been with very many girls, but I have quite a bit of experience with two of the three that I've had sex with. I can pretty much confirm what the ladies in the video say. I'm 8" long and 6.5" around and two of those girls absolutely loved it. With both of them I heard from a third party that I was the best lover they had ever had. One even told me that I was the first guy that was able to make her cum. Unfortunately some positions were off limits, because it would go too deep, like doggystyle. I think it's important that we had good communication about what felt good and what didn't , and that's an important factor. All three said that they loved the way it looked and it's size is sexy. But, with the third girl we couldn't even have sex. She was really tight, i couldn't fit more than two fingers inside her, and when I tried to push my dick inside her it wouldn't fit at all. We tried for a while, but it just wasn't happening. It was definitely frustrating, but that being said, I'm very happy with my size and wouldn't trade it in for something smaller. A few super small girls being off limits is a loss I can deal with.	Comment by: Hung guy 02/09/2010 00:36:48

	On a side note, Tanya might be on to something. I'm 6'0" with a very slender build. :)	Comment by: Hung guy 02/09/2010 00:38:54

	I am about the size of a hot dog cooked. I'm cut, with a 4 1/2 inch to 5 inch penis erect depending if I push the skin back on my pubic area. I haven't dated in 10 yrs. because of my small penis. I can't feel good having sex knowing I'm not big enough for most women. Is there a way for me to tell what type of women my small penis is not TOO small for? Is there a race, or height, or weight on a woman that would cue me into the likely hood of a tinier vagina? Please help. I want to have children, but I'm getting older. I need advise.	Comment by: skinny4inchdick 05/10/2010 07:31:14

	skinny4inchdick, you should instead focus on mastering other ways to please a woman (ie. cunnilingus, massage, using sex toys together )	Comment by: ladybug 05/10/2010 14:24:01

	pursue a relationship by all means but you do realise that if you have children they might have the same problem? its your choice of course but is that entirely fair? you know what it means to go through life without being able to vaginally satisfy a girl with your organ- why would it be different for your sons? My advice would be finding a girl who doesnt want children and who has a less powerful sex drive and who may not put such emphasis on enjoyable penetrative sex	Comment by: basa 05/10/2010 15:22:15

	To the guy above with a slender 4.5-5 inch penis. The statistical average to which 90% of men fall into is 5-7 inches. Don't let any size queen whores fool you. A pussy can get off on one finger or an entire fist. A pussy can be tight enough to fit a tampon with ease and stretch to let out a 10 pound baby (or a 9 inch thick fist). Vaginal orgasms come from stimulation of the G-spot/Urethral sponge. It's the rough tissue on the front wall about 2 inches in, it can allow some girls to squirt. The clitoris is the main tool for female orgasm and women have virtually all their nerve endings there, around the vulva, and at the G-spot. The are hardly any in the vagina after about 4 inches anyway and it's been proven scientifically. The average penis is more than enough and don't let any dumb bitch put you down about something which is on the lower end of the average range. If she does then shove it in her ass or as deep as you can down her throat till she gags then tell her if it's not good enough. Also penis size is genetic but also depends on the size of the woman's fathers and grandfathers penies. Genetics isn't as simple as a combination of a male and female DNA. Things like height, eye colour, foot size, medical issues and penis/breast size are based on more than just the mother and father's DNA. That's why you have kids who are 6 foot when their parents are both 5'6 or kids with Ginger hair when both are brown. It depends on the females side too just as much as breast size of a woman can depend on the genetics of the man's mother and grandmother. A man can have a 5 incher but his son grow to have an 8 incher purely because his Great Grandfather from his mums side was hung. Another fact, penis size of 8 inches by 6 inches girth is prevalent in one of every 2000 men in this world. If a woman busts your head with your size then do as I said above and give her the orgasm of her life with your fingers and tongue. Then after that tell her to **** off because you think she has an ugly figure. Be a man for God's sake.	Comment by: Jorge 06/13/2010 17:43:25

	I agree with Jorge. Although, he may have been a little too harsh, but understand his message. What always astonished me is those women who demand large penis, but they do not bring anything to the table themselve. I mean, if Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry demanded large penis. I could aleast digest their demand, but some of the women that I see on this webpage...hmmm. I could easily pick them apart for their deficienceies as well. I just saying the ole "glass house" theory, and that include myself. I do not demand what a person cannot change, but that's just me.	Comment by: tj 11/14/2010 01:45:05

	What are you talking about -- men do it ALL THE TIME. Many won't even think of being with a woman unless she has a great body and big breasts.	Comment by: ladybug 11/17/2010 11:41:00

	What are you talking about? Many men may fantasize about it, but then reality kicks in. Matter fact I see more penis size enhancement than breast augmentation. Most men I know prefer natural breast to include whatever size they were born with. The Dolly Parton era is over, for the most part women/men magizine may contribute to that logic, but they are trying to make money. Granted, I know there are men out there who are breast hounds, but i truly believe its not like the early eighties. And far as body style, most men do not prefer the super model super thin body either. They say history repeats itself. Most men are coming around to accept women body for who they are, its now women who are judging men body. Is it wonderful.	Comment by: TJ 11/17/2010 20:57:42

	I get what you mean but penis size is more important because it has a functional role but breasts dont. Girls just naturally dont like small ones. The wome were just being honest I think. I mean you wouldnt honestly like an obsese woman would you?	Comment by: Dave 11/25/2010 19:38:05

	I used breast reference, because women (most) use it as a comparison. To me, its apples and oranges. I appreciate honesty and I know most women has a size preference and that's ok too. My point was, we can be honest without making fun of someone else shortcomings. For example, your question to me about obsese woman. I would not prefer an obsese woman and most importantly, I will not sit in front of video and make jokes about her either. My preference statement would simply be: I prefer women between 110-150 lbs. I won't reminse about the biggest woman I have ever had and what she look like without clothes. That was my disappointment with some of the panelist. Most of the debate is "Men have always done it" that is such a straw man fallacy. My last point was simply implementing respect for both gender. We can be honest and respectful and the same time. However, it appears impossible to do here.	Comment by: TJ 11/26/2010 00:55:57

	I'm surprise you think that men judging women based on their appearance is a "straw man fallacy." It's an deep-seeded element of our society (unattractive men can be seen all over mainstream media -- but the women have to be attractive in order to be cast anywhere within a visual medium). As a result, while it may seem mean spirited, it's liberating for women to turns the table and judge men on their physical attributes. And as I said in an earlier post -- we could edit more out, but have tended to just let most of the dialog flow (financial considerations). In addition, the last thing we have wanted to do is censor the women during the taping -- and yes, as someone said, if men where part of the conversation, they would speak differently. But that's what we want -- for the women to feel comfortable to openly express their thoughts and experiences involving sex. Honest dialog about female sexuality (and yes, male sexuality too) is lacking. Ultimately, though I think it's pretty obvious that all of our women appreciate men -- we make sure we don't cast "male-haters". Every so often though a not-so-sensitive remark will come out -- and it seems as your comments primarily focus on those. That said, we regret you find certain videos offensive.	Comment by: ladybug 11/30/2010 21:29:35

	Ladybug I truly appreciate your response. You have made some valid points. Maybe oneday we can excape or move beyond a double standard society. Although, I may disagree with some section of a few videos, but overall, the website has an abundance of excellent information for both gender to add to their talent pool. And I would refer this website to my male friends, because at our age, we want to hear wants on women minds. Hopefully, the same way they what to hear whats on our mind. -I appreciate words. I was just concerned. When women visit this site they will find support and kinds words. An insecure man who wants to know how to please his partner, well he might get his world rock from certain remarks. - Lastly, I was attempting to use the "strawman fallacy" for the "men do it all the time" statement. Comments were made that some of the remarks were crude. Many women(I assuming..sorry) replied with that statement. That was my definition of a strawman fallacy. Iits ok to use those remarks because men do it all the time? Instead of saying, it was rude, but the message behind the words is true. I could have lived with that and would not have made any comment about it. But as you can see, we (society) have long way to go. Keep up the excellent work!	Comment by: TJ 12/02/2010 17:37:45

	Likewise tj if a woman were to visit some male sites she might be upset too. I thought the clip open and honest. Most women are very put off by small penises or bad technique and any numbers of things. Surely censorship is a bad idea?	Comment by: Dave 12/03/2010 20:57:35

	Are you hard in hearing? My response is not tied to small penis, but about the language we use. I would hope if a women hear or read something that offends her that she will or would speak up. And that should go for anyone. "Surely censorship is a bad idea?" I think of it as guidelines. I am pretty sure that shows like Oprah have rules on language. Most website have rules about whats ok and not ok. That does not dimish honest conversation. In my opinion, it keep everyone on the topic. If you start a group discussion with offensive language target at half the group. You would lose control of the group and the focus of effort. In my current unit, there are more men than women. In some cases I have to correct male on their language. And in some rare cases I'm correcting female about their langauge. At the end of the day, like I said before...RESPECT for everyone. Or I can sit back and let the males act like pig, because "Men do it all the time"	Comment by: TJ 12/03/2010 21:28:23

	With respect there were no men there to be offended. So they don't like x, y z? They are entitled to their honest opinions.	Comment by: Dave 12/18/2010 19:51:23

	So, you are saying no man have seen or heard the video? Also, I believe this would be a screw-up society with the meaning of your comment. For example, it implies that women cannot be offended if its relates to the opposite sex or vice versa. What the hell would we need EO for with that logic. "Sir, I was talking about her (fill in the blank) with an all male audience" So that should make it OK, right?	Comment by: TJ 01/01/2011 23:35:05

	I was making the point that they were trying to be honest in a same sex Conversation. They wanted to be open and truthful Without the white lies that usually come out in the company of men. If men do coMe here, like me, we can hardly be annoyed that they were truthful. Whatever their Prefernces someone is bound to be a bit hurt. Short guys must be Annoyed to hear girls like tall men so do we censor that?	Comment by: Dave 01/01/2011 23:56:59

	Once again, I never said or accentuated that honesty is not the best policy. But, I do believe we can be honest and respectful about it, which I have said numerous times here. For example, if a woman prefers a well endowed man. Why would she need to make fun of a small penis men? If a man prefers a large breast woman. Why would he need to make fun of small breast women? I am not understanding where you are getting the censorship from. I have never said they should lie or they should shut-up. My comments have centered around being respectful about the truth. You make it seems that the two could never co-exist. In my experience, they can. Lastly, I not annoyed with the truth. Matterfact, most of the videos were educational without offending the men body parts. Notice I said MEN body parts. Video concerning women body parts were met with a supportive cast; however, not the same applied for men. Yes, this is a juicy talk for women website. But as I mentioned before, men can and could benefit too. To me its seem obvious that they did not expect men to visit...thats a shame. From a previous comment made by a man, Cherrytv offer that the blogger visit AskMen. I was curious so I visit myself. One of the first things I notice, was many articles were written by women. At first, I must admit I was confused, but the articles I did read were very good. Some were based on both gender point-of-views from surveys or polls, according to the article.	Comment by: TJ 01/02/2011 12:32:06

	But who judges the respect thing? You? The editor. An undesirable body part does entice a Human reaction. So if a girl says , 'yuk, it was tiny' they are expressing their feelings truthfully. As opposed to 'we didn't match anatomically' . They should be able to express themselves as they see fit.	Comment by: David 01/02/2011 21:20:32

	Then, why is it "men do it all the time"? If its true what you say. Ladybug and others would not utlize that statement as an excuse to justify why someone did it or said it. If I say "yuk" to a woman and she tell me to F off. We are expressing our feelings. Matter fact some of editors has told other bloggers to lighting-up or there's no reason to be mean on this website. Do you see the double standard? If you are advocating freedom of speech, well boss, it works both ways. P.s, go to the any reputable blog site and read the rules. Some list no profanity, racial slur, ....etc. Because anyone can get their point across without coming across like an a**..	Comment by: TJ 01/03/2011 18:45:16

	I'm afraid I didn't see anything in these videos that broke normal rules. A women screwing up her face whilst recalling a small penis or bad sexual experience Is hardly crime of the century.	Comment by: DAve 01/03/2011 22:34:55

	Crime of the century...are you on crack? Where are you getting comment from? Where did I say "Crime of the century or Censorship"	Comment by: TJ 01/05/2011 22:21:02

	wot i meant was that you seem disproportionatley offended by their comments and interactions- which are pretty standard when girls talk about sex or any thing else. as a guy im sometimes amazed at the intrinsic detail women go into. i have never described a girls vagina to a friend in my life but its the way women are- they are more communicative generally- its a brain design thing.	Comment by: dave 01/06/2011 12:22:28

	You are correct with the amount of detail women offers to their friends. The debate is why they do it. Some for malice reason while mentioned for assurance or to compare notes. LOL. I got that from some blog site written by a woman. Surprisingly, most women admitted it, just for different reason. My chief argument was, when women said or gestured something that could be offensive, the defense was "men do it all the time", but when a man does say something that could be offensive, he's a pig or all kinds of negative nouns, pronouns, and or adjectives. An example: 1.) A guy wrote in that his girl friend suck at sex and he was not sure if he wanted to dump her or work it out. Women went hay wire on him. You name it and he got called it. They rally forces to support this young lady. Of course with blogs, true gender is hard to identify. But, not one woman said he is just being honesty. To me, he came off like a jerk. If he choose his words differently, many probably would looked into what he was trying to get across. But he lost the battle with his words. This was another point I was trying to make about substantance of our words. I understand that you can not please everyone or someone will not be offended. But, at least attempt it.	Comment by: TJ 01/09/2011 19:10:33

	Well if the guy was Posting in a mixed blog he was bound to offend although I don't know how extreme his words may have been. But in this closed female chit chat they were open and natural and weren't tryIng to moderate their tone. If they were watching their words then the videos would be very different.	Comment by: Dave 01/09/2011 21:56:42

	I think the different is more negative then positive. Its like comparing Oprah Winfrey show to Jerry Springer, both have the same topic, but the delivery is different. And the delivery is based upon professionalism and respect. Both got the messages across, which show would be watched. Hey to each its own. I can remember sitting in a waiting area in a dealership and when the Jerry Springers about to commence. I never seen that many women fight to get the channel changed.	Comment by: TJ 01/11/2011 20:25:30

	YEAH THE GIRLS WERE A BIT COLD IN THE CLIP. YES A SMALL PENIS IS A TURN OFF BUT NO NEED TO RIDICULE LIKE THAT. NO PERSON CHOOSES THEIR SIZE. THEY ARE NO DOUBT UPSET ENOUGH WITHOUT PEOPLE JOKING BEHIND THEIR BACKS	Comment by: DWFUC 03/27/2011 04:40:52

	@ TJ: I think you stumbled upon the answer, if you don't like the message or the delivery, change the channel - there are venues that are more "politically correct," if that's what you want. These ladies are exploring the topic in a frank and uninhibited format, and I for one appreciate them for doing it - it's truly educational. Your point about being able to express ones' self without making off-color remarks, is absolutely valid; but while I haven't viewed every video, I've not run across any that breach that standard. Just my two cents worth.	Comment by: Anonymous Husband 10/24/2011 00:56:58

	listening to people like ladybug try and justify these male pisstake vidz is high comedy.Its all a GET BACK.Oh poor american women have had it sooooo bad in this society...BOO HOO! Move to the mideast and then get back to me,you have zero idea how GOOD you have it ladies. Also,given the fact that 70+ percent of all suicides in america are ma.le,you'd think these geopolitical feminist biases and slander would stop but they continue like they have for decades because alot of modern women are spoiled,souless and clueless#############################	Comment by: hi h8rs 10/25/2011 17:39:26

	I forgot to mention I have a very small penis	Comment by: hi h8rs 10/29/2011 19:23:31

	I have read through all of the above comments and im just going to throw my thoughts out there... To start off, I agree with TJ, both men and women should respect one another, yet at the same time be honest... There is no need to put someone down over the fact that their penis is small or that they have little breasts... in fact that is bullying. Most everyone brought out valid points and instead of trying to fight eachother's arguments, why not put your great minds together? Does size matter? I'm no women but prolly to some extent, if I was a women I don't think i'd be satisfied with a really small penis but at the same time if it is true that too big hurts, I wouldnt want it to big either. But that is just me and no matter how big or small you are don't worry, THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU. Just keep looking and you're bound to find them. Don't give up because if you never look you shall never find, never try and you shall never succeed... Never did I say you wouldn't fail, but you got to lose to learn how to win, you got to fall before you fly, and you got to cry before you sing. I think it is important not only that we are honest, and respectful of eachother but also that we are united... Face it, Men without Women or Women without Men could never happen (Please don't bring up Adam, cuz that is why God made Eve) or we would die out. It is sorta like Yin and Yang, complete opposites but yet soooo very reliant on eachother. Anyways, I never said we wouldn't sometimes slip up and be disrespectful, dishonest, or ununited... But we aren't perfect, so it is expected, all that I was trying to say, is that we should try to our best ability. My girlfriend, she is a bigger women, anemic, and not the best looking... Do I care? Yes, to an extent, but I accept her for who she is. I love her, and she makes me happy, and at the end of the day isn't that all that matters? It's not always about the outside, sometimes the biggest beauty comes from within (Don't judge a book by its cover). Back to why I care... Is it selfishness? No, i'm actually more concerned with health risks, and passing it on to future generations. Do I like bigger women? No, in fact I never ever ever saw myself being with a bigger woman, but sometimes if you just give someone a chance, that'll be all they need to prove themselves. Isn't that the beauty of life? You never know what will happen. My point is that we as humanity need to stop judging others for their short comings because we all have them. Is he too big or are you too tight? Is she too loose or are you too small? See? It goes both ways. Hopefully one day we will all realize that it isn't always the physical features that matter, but more often then not, the personality features... Just think about it. Thanks for reading. :) P.s. Dave lay off the crack.	Comment by: Mediator 10/31/2011 13:00:17

	Cherry Tv = LOSERS!	Comment by: Beneath Contempt 11/02/2011 01:10:11

	Trout pussy	Comment by: gig 11/13/2011 23:22:06

	Im a college girl and ill screw anything on 2 or 4 legs becuz thats what us white college girls do in 2011 !! Girl powwwwwer!!!!!!!!!	Comment by: Emma Slut 11/15/2011 01:31:53

	Most women can't screw. Don't believe. How many has made a guy orgasm from them (women) being on top, control all the movement. Answer, very few. How many women have made men orgasm with straight oral sex? Answer, very few. Men bring themselve to orgasm. Women, in most case are not the factor.	Comment by: JJ 11/15/2011 21:46:02

	Dudes.... seduce her mind not her vagina. Cock size doesn't matter when you are 007. If you FEEL wimpy, you project whimpyness, and you convince her you are, which reinforces your small pee pee syndrom. The real problem is this rediculous "entertain me" value system. Why do you think ALL women wear makeup? Because they don't feel Pretty enough! Just like you don't feel big enough. If we ALL just dropped the BS and could just be real.... I love women from outside the US! Our US girls suffer from Princess syndrom, Model perfection syndrom, secret desire to be like a whore syndrom (observe halloween), etc. So refreshing to meet and experience real feminin women in other cultures and really enjoy the raw human nature with no "entertain me" expectations. I consider my size as average hard, wintsy falcid and I don't give a screw what you think. I made children. End of story. I was successful. I fulfiled my sexual purpose. And I feel like a man every day spend with my kids! Look, the butt hole was made for pooping. The vagina was made for reproducing. Not for watercooler gossip about how to pidgeon hole some great guy except "he didn't have a big shoe" story. Blow me if you don't like this, I care less what others think!	Comment by: Harry Ballzonia 12/21/2011 02:52:50

	yeah, try saying that when you have 4.5 inches hard and the last 3 girls ran a mile when they saw it..	Comment by: Terry 12/23/2011 13:46:37

	The THINNER the woman, the LOOSER the VJ! Trust me...	Comment by: Dr Know 01/06/2012 23:52:26

	I agree with the person that USA women like these are ass holes.They are immature and bring nothing to the party you expect the perfect guy lol. Women from Eastern Europe and Asia are more attractive and have better personalities. Maybe advice to the guys would be to look elsewhere.	Comment by: Samsander14 01/07/2012 05:04:42

	Generally speaker good sex is easier with a bigger one. If I am honest. But I have had ok sex with average guys- if they put enough effort in and are romantic and agile. But a small one? Don't really see what that could do... sorry	Comment by: Callie 08/20/2012 07:51:36

	Iâ€™m a bit on the average small size at 6inch by 5.5 girth and my girlfriend has always said I was the best sheâ€™s had. Whether she says that to massage my ego I donâ€™t know but I doubt it. I believe as long as the man has atlases something down there then it just comes down to whether he is willing to learn, is observant and considerate.	Comment by: Dantheman92 08/25/2012 12:24:00

	Actually 5.5 is slightly above ave girth- no wonder she likes you! :)	Comment by: Callie 08/26/2012 12:58:02

	Big vagina.	Comment by: Hags 08/29/2012 21:52:32

	@Dr Know. You are right on about the thinner women. However, I'll take the thinner woman with a loose vagina over any FAT woman...I wouldn't care if she could crack a walnut with her vagina...women waist size matter to me, just being honest.	Comment by: Capt Kirk 08/29/2012 21:57:58

	Big poles for big holes! That's all it is...ladies!	Comment by: Yrrt 09/02/2012 12:05:16

	Big breast and a tight ass matter too.	Comment by: Gt 09/03/2012 17:01:43

	And, let's not forget that the Vajaja size plays an important factor as well. Who would want to stick their wiener in a big empty jar?	Comment by: Craig 09/04/2012 09:47:03

	Not bad at all flleas and gallas. Thanks.	Comment by: Infinity 09/25/2012 01:40:23